OK, OK, lets stop here

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OK, OK, lets stop here
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:29am
Thank you everyone that posted to my discussion "losing it all". You have been absolutely wonderful. Everyone makes good points and I have much to think about. Now that disagreements are starting I want to stop here and think. Kim made very useful comments, and I was sure she was right, then Laurie did, I am sure she is right....the fact is, I have to do what I think is right. I am going to use all of your advice as best as I can and then come back with an update. I can't thank you enough for all of your wisdom and support. See you back here as soon as I can, wish me luck! Love and smooches, Sandra

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:51am
Okay, Sandra, all finished here.

Best of luck to you and DD.

But please do not think we are arguing. I totally respect Kim and believe she made very good points as well.

I think it is ok to have different oppinions sometimes. It is a good learning experience and to me very interesting.

Hugs,

Laurie
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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 11:19am

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Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:09pm

GOOD LUCK TO YOU SANDRA!


I know its a hard road but we are sending lots of HUGS and SUPPORT to make the journey lighter


Keep us posted.

*hugs ~ Caly


"They might not need me; but they might.

*hugs ~ Caly

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 3:26pm

I'm just sending you big ol' hugs..


I've been where you are, and I know the pain IS incredible. There are really no easy answers, and frankly, none of it would change your daughter's mind till she's ready to understand.


It does terrible things to a woman's mind, having her child(ren) move out before the age we might reasonably expect them to go, like it invalidates all we've ever done for them. We question ourselves and struggle with the guilt that tells us we should give our whole lives to our kids.


It all hurts. Maybe the best you can do is rise gracefully to the occasion, treat this as empty nest syndrome come early... Do what you need to do to keep your life full and your heart happy.


You have my shoulder if you need it, email thru my profile if you like.
*hugs* ~ Nony

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 10:10pm
Wishing you all the best. Good luck with your venture.