Need Advice

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Registered: 09-19-2004
Need Advice
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Sun, 09-19-2004 - 9:45am
I am seeking advice, recently a co-worker and I have struck up a friendship and I'm not sure where to go next. We spend a lot of time on phone, emailing and txt messaging and an occasional dinner. Here's my dilemma... I do not know if this other women is gay or not... think so but unsure. I don't want to ruin the friendship by doing something inappropriate...but she consumes my thoughts on a daily basis. I get the feeling we are both waiting for the other to make the first move….I am not confident enough to “go for it” for I fear it will change whatever chances we have at a friendship…help
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: lvnyy
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 10:02am
I would suggest you let her make the first move. If you are a lesbian and she is not, it could make her very uncomfortable if you were to "hit on" her. It could damage the friendship. Come out to her, maybe you could ask her if she knows you are a lesbian, then she would be aware of the situation and decide for herself what to do from there. Good luck! Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: lvnyy
Sun, 09-19-2004 - 11:47am

Hi Ivnyy!

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Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: lvnyy
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 8:27am

Hi lvnyy and welcome to the board. I agree with Sandra and Pam, I think the best thing to do is for you to come out to her. Once you are out of the closet, if she is gay, that opens the door for her to come out to you. Once you are both out of the closet, then it would be fine to let her know that you are interested. If she is not gay, then you don't risk losing a friendship by making her feel uncomfortable. Come back and let us know what you do and how it works out!


Hugs!


~C