alright, am questioning my approach...

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Registered: 08-03-2004
alright, am questioning my approach...
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Mon, 09-20-2004 - 3:21am
i don't know if it's just me but i've been lately wondering about how i tend to fall for someone... the older i get, the faster i seem to know when someone is right for me. i don't think this is wrong, i see the good side of it but what's wrong with this picture, is that i *seem* to leave so many things out that gets in the way for a real relationship to develop. i don't know if i'm being open-minded or a real DOOFUS - the second last time i fell for someone was a guy who was everything i wanted in a partner, nothing more, nothing less--but he was GAY. i actually entertained the idea that i could persuade him to be bi, but ok, i dropped that because in the end, I knew he could never be satisfied with just a woman. (And i'm still carrying a torch for him, btw!!!) the last time i fell for a girl who is perfect except for the fact that she is considerably younger, and despite the fact she is very mature for her age-i just don't see us LASTING together-if it does happen, maybe in 6-8 years, at the least-and i know i can't/won't wait. i just tune in to certain aspects of the personality, that i like very much and tune out the rest. i think i'm tuning in and tuning out the wrong things... and yeah, i am very fussy, lol.

how does it happen for you?

do you have in your mind a shopping list (ok, in the broadest generous terms) and when you meet that someone, everything just clicks and you just know, kind of fast? How was it with that special someone you have right now?

Or does it generally take time for you to get to know someone, then you give yourself permission to fall?

And have you fallen hard for innappropriate persons? if you have how did you extricate yourself?

i don't know what's with me, lol!!!

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 9:10am
No worries, I know what I am up against with Jen. Society can be so cruel. If its not one thing it will be another, she's worth it. At the end of the day when all is said and done, we are happy. I don't have to live with the rest of the world day in and day out - just her. If you ever want to say whatever it is you are holding back you can email me through my profile. Hugs, Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Wed, 09-22-2004 - 11:02am

I'll toss my two cents in here...


>>>how does it happen for you?<<<

~C

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