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Am I the only one?
| Mon, 09-20-2004 - 3:34pm |
Hi everyone....I'm not new to ivillage but am new to posting....I have read alot of posts and have been hooked....everyone is so amazing here....you are all very supportive of one another...ok here's my problem....recently I met this wonderful woman in a chat room and we have been talking everyday for as long as possible....we get along great....have alot in common...I've never met someone like her b4...especially from the internet....I think that is what scares me most....how do I know who i'm really chatting with...do I just go with my gut instinct which says thats she's being real? Also she is the first woman that I have feelings for in this way....We havent talked about speaking over the phone and I am a little nervous about that...I dont know y....another problem is that she lives in Cali and I'm in NY....is this just hopeless or do u think something real might come of this? I know only we can make that decision but some advice would be great....Thank u for listening
~Shygirlxo~

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Kim
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Sandr
I've a friend in Montreal, and last year had to pick up one person in Montreal (she was coming from Toronto) that used to post here, bring her back here, and fly her to Oklahoma... anyway, my friend let me stay at her place in Montreal the night before the other was due in... and her boyfriend was worried silly I was an axe murderer. We had a lot of fun over that, but... the concern is valid, you have to make sure.
*hugs*
She started e-mailing me love letters as if we were having an affair and talking about how great our phone sex was. This stuff never happened of course. She did it to ruin my current relationship which did not work because current girlfriend saw me typing in the chat room.
It took a couple of years before she stopped stalking me. So I took her off my blocked email and IM's well a month ago she IM'ed me. Wanted to know if we could start over. Start what over?! So she is once again and forever blocked. Just be careful. I have also met nice people who I have maintained friendships with for a couple of years that are wonderful.
I guess you just have to know that it is a gamble and never meet someone from online alone. Meet in a public place first.
Phone call are good so you can hear a voice. One of my internet friends and I call now and then on our cell phones, but mostly just email and IM.
One of my cousins is happily married to someone she met in a chat room, so you just never know. It can be a good way to meet more people than you ever would in real life.
There are couples here who have met on this board.
Stick around. This is a real safe place.
Laurie
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Hi Shygirl and welcome to Lesbian Life. Its great to see a new face around here :) As far as this woman you've met, I'll just add my cautions to all the rest. Yes, it is possible to meet someone on line and have them be the ONE for you. Relationships can and do develop that way. But you have to be SO careful. You can also end up with VERY bad experiences like some of the women here have had. Go slowly and very carefully and just see how things play out. Come back and let us know how things go.
Hugs!
~C