My parents ~ rant/vent

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My parents ~ rant/vent
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 8:59am

Just needed to get out.


Little sister, M, had her birthday Friday. So I sent her a big package with her presents in it. I sent to her in care of my grandparents, cause I had this feeling that if it was sent to my parent's house she would never get it. Anyways, it arrived on Thursday and my grandparents took it over to her. I talked to her Friday morning and she had opened a couple of the presents, was saving the rest for later, and loved them. Fast forward to Saturday night, I called again just to say hi. Little brother answered the phone and I talked to him awhile and then asked to speak to M. Well she can't come to the phone cause she is grounded. Part of her grounding was from phone privleges which makes me mad all by itself because it primarily affects me, she only very rarely talks to anyone else on the phone, but ok fine, no big deal. So then I ask him what else she is grounded from, he starts listing things and guess what? She is only grounded from things that relate to ME. She can't talk on the phone, she's not allowed to read her letters that she got from me on Saturday, and the presents that I got her have been put away ~ for 6 weeks! She's still allowed to play with friends, go outside, and play with any toys/things that are from anyone else but me. So I asked to speak to my mother just to make sure I was getting it right, and sure enough. The whole box of things I sent her, plus the letters have been put away till she's not grounded anymore.


Ugh!


My parents hate the fact that I have, and always have had,

~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 3:48pm

Thanks Wobin. You are a real sweetie.


Big Hugs!


~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 4:01pm
How/why in the world do they or could they not like you courtney?

I guess I have missed the beginning of when you posted those things before I came to the board.

We love you her courtney,

Laurie
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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 4:16pm

Thanks so much rj. This board is great at providing a space to vent. Thanks for your kind words. My parents are difficult to understand and difficult to explain. Anyone that hasn't experienced them first hand really has trouble grasping them.


Hugs!


~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 4:19pm

I guess the simplistic answer is, because they can. Which is really too simple of an answer. Short summary of how I explained it to Laurie, they do it because they don't like me, and it bothers them that despite their best effort the kids do like me, very much. ~sigh~ (((((((((Hugs)))))))) and thanks.


~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 4:22pm

Hi Tink, its good to see you back. Thanks for your kind thoughts and words. I'm sorry you've had to experience something similar, thats really tough. ((((((((((Hugs))))))))))


~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 4:24pm
My other question then is the same as Laurie's, HOW could they not like you? I guess I am also too new here to understand. But if you don't want to explain it's ok, I believe you, I just don't know how that is possible, sounds like you were the only child for a while since you refer to the other siblings as "the kids". One would think you would have formed a special bond with your parents before your sister and brother were even born. Families are strange sometimes aren't they? I have a brother and 3 sisters, we get along weird too - it's not just you!Hugs, Sandra

Sandr

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 5:50pm

For as long as I've been around, I've tried to get a handle on my parents. I've not yet succeeded either. I know I've not done a very good job of presenting them in a fair and unbiased light, its hard for me to see them that way though, I'm not far enough removed from it. They have a lot of deeper problems, alcoholism and gambling addiction among them, that lead to a lot of the more obvious problems that I generally gripe about. They just really frustrate me. I've not yet moved past the stage of wanting and craving

~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 5:51pm

Thanks so much Gigi. You're a sweetie!


Big hugs.


~C

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 6:07pm

(((((( Court ))))))


Huggles & love,

Robin

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Sun, 09-26-2004 - 6:39pm
Ohhhh Myyyy!!! (((Courtney)))) your poor little sister!.. I wonder if your parents are related to my ex in any way?..**Grimice**
He too does things like that when grounding the boys or trying to keep them from getting stuff from me.. That is just so sad for her.. I know how hard this has to be

 C  >^. A .