what would you do? trust

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Registered: 09-02-2004
what would you do? trust
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Mon, 09-27-2004 - 6:59pm


Hi. I had posted on here about a month ago and got some great input, so I thought I would try again. I guess my question is how do you react to a friend who seems like she might be trying to pull away? When it starts to seem like she's not contacting you as often or breaks a few promises to call later and it's just not like her. Can you just chalk it up to having a full plate right now or a phase? I know it probably doesn't have anything to do with me, I know i've not done anything, but it seems like such a sudden change in behavior. This is really hard on me because it feels like everytime I let someone in and get close they eventually end up disappearing or want out of the relationship etc... I'm pretty sure that I'm not suffocating, that's why I have not even mentioned to this friend that I feel this way. I'm trying to give some space, hoping that life is just really busy right now. I really hope that I'm not let down again and that i'm just being paranoid, but I don't like the vibe I'm getting. Any input/advice would be much appreciated. Thanks!
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Registered: 02-15-2004
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 8:24pm


Well first starsfall, welcome back. Have you talked with your friend? It's always best to ask her when she calls and find out what the problem is. Getting close is aways risky business, but it happens. Does she have a demanding work schedule? Sometimes you just have to come out and ask. Maybe she's not too sure about how you feel about her. I can understand about being let down, but you're going to have to ask what's going on. It could be that she wants to talk about something deeper, or possibly she wants to get to know you better but doesn't know how to approach you in asking questions.

Either way, I hope things go well for you.

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 02-15-2004
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 10:27pm
Welcome back Starsfall, remember the old saying "If you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they're yours, if not, it was never meant to be"? Maybe she needs some space. Tell her you get the feeling something is wrong, see if there is something you can do to help. If she doesn't talk, let her go, and wait. Hugs, Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-27-2004 - 10:32pm

Hi Starsfall and welcome back.

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Wed, 09-29-2004 - 9:09am

Hi starsfall and welcome back. I think you have recieved some great advice already. Don't automatically assume that its her pulling away from you, she could just be at a super busy place in her life right now. I know that there are days that are SO super busy for me, I've got friends emails that will sit in my inbox for DAYS before they get a response. If it is about you, it doesn'y necessarily mean that you have done something wrong. There could be many excuses for her pulling back. Ask if anything is wrong, if you can help her with anything, or if she wants to talk about anything, if she says no, then let it go and let her sort things out on her own. Like Sandra said, if its meant to be, she'll come back to you.


Hugs and good luck!


~C