No one believes I'm a lesbian . . .
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| Mon, 09-27-2004 - 10:45pm |
Newest dilemma:
It's doesn't seem that anyone believes that I'm really a lesbian. I'm hearing a lot of things from a lot of people including my stbx husband, and my oldest friend. My stbx says that I'm just going through a phase, my oldest friend says that she's known me my whole life and has always seem me attracted to guys, and to make it all worse, gf's friends and sisters all have something to say about my "sudden transformation," and think that I'll probably change my mind and go back to men.
Should this bother me? Is there a checklist that I need to fill out and send in somewhere? These are the conclusions that I've come up with on my own:
1. I'm in love with a woman.
2. I would rather have dental work done that to sleep with another man.
3. I regret all of the time that I wasted having sex with men when I could have been having sex with women.
4. If I were single, I wouldn't want to date guys. (Well maybe I would let them buy me dinner, but that's all.)
I could go on, but you all get the picture I'm sure. Is this a common response from people? Have any of you experienced this? It's all confusing enough, then to have people doubt that I even know what I want makes me feel like I'm crazy.
Thanks in advance for all of your wisdom and support!
Scarlett

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I encountered some skepticism from my best friend when she confronted me.
Kim
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I'm thinking this may be my new vocation; A Lesbian Personal Appearance Specialist, or the "used to be straight, but now is queer girl for the queer girl." Maybe I could have my own television show?
Hmmm, could I be on to something?
Scarlett
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I think some of my friends responses are similar except I don't have a previous experience to refer to; this is my first one. It really came out of nowhere for me and I think that's what people are having the problem with. They think that I'm either having a midlife crisis (at 35,) crazy (one friend suggested maybe I'm a manic depressant,) or just acting out because I need drama in my life, (that's a good one, God, I just LOVE all of this drama!) My stbx husband says that I'm just using this as a convenient excuse to get out of my marriage, (because it's so convenient to have half of the town be gossiping and whispering about you!)
It really sucks.
Scarlett
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I've actually had a woman to laugh at me when I told her that I was gay. She thought I was joking. And, never believed I was gay. It is just recently that I've had a "positive" response from the gay/lesbian community where I live. I simply don't fit the stereotype. I'm not butch or femme. There's something about me that seems to turn gay people off. I guess? I don't really know. Unfortunately, I don't guess I look the part. I'm not really "out", but for those who I've told in the past, I've had a hard time convincing.
:) rj
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No one had to train me to know that I belong in a skirt, heels, and makeup.
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>Their surprise occured 13 years ago when I married a man.
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>the "used to be straight, but now is queer girl for the queer girl." Maybe I could have my own television show?
ROFLMAO!
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