50 yr old looking for a LTR

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50 yr old looking for a LTR
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:15pm
Anyone here in NYS? Looking for a LT mate. Share expenses, bills ex... Lonely femme looking for a good partner. I feel this is a lost cause.
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Thu, 10-07-2004 - 11:36pm

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Don't be bummed out.

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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 7:01am
Hello Buterfli,

I wanted you to know that I received your email. Did you get mine? I can understand what it feels like to be lonely. I've been lonely for almost 10 years now. Sometimes it is frustrating and difficult. Last night before I feel asleep, I prayed and asked God if I would ever have someone to fall asleep with. So, I know exactly where you are coming from.

I would like to offer my friendship to you. Please email me anytime you wish. I'm not as intelligent as some of these ladies are when it comes to advice, but I'll keep in touch and give you support.

You can email me at kozmic00blues@yahoo.com

You can vent, rave, rant, whatever you feel like doing in your emails.

I hope you find someone local soon. ((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:39am
Hey ladies, I felt I needed add my comments. I have and was a single parent of 19 years, raised two daughters on my own, for the better part of 15 plus, I have not been in a relationship or dated. I just recently came out to few close friends this summer as a lesbian. I find that being alone & lonely are two different concepts for me. First, I really hated being alone, especially when I needed a hug or someone to tell me I was doing a good job. Being alone, though many years of therapy to work on issues, I have found to be a stronger person, able to make good decisions, and learn to like/love myself as a person. I think that if I didn't have that time to be alone, I really would not have had the chance to know myself, my strengths/weakness, what I will/will not tolerate in a potential relationship, whenever that may be. Being lonley, I think we all go through being lonley, it is a time of reflection for me ,personally, and I look at the opportunity of can I do to make my situation better. Yes, someday I want to share my life with someone, but I am not ready to just jump at the first available opportunity for me, that would be unfair to myself. I also look at the bigger picture, because I have been alone for so long, I will have much to offer to the relationship in a deeper level.

Put yourself out there, attend a movie, theatre, library, bookstore, food store, volunteer , for me, it is about getting out there and finding groups. Also, see if there is a lesbian book club or potlucks, you can join or start your own :) Happy thinking and wish the best to both of you. Take care, gracemae59
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:46pm
I normally always considered myself "alone" and well not really "lonely"....I guess I had rather and always was rather satisfied being alone rather then being with the wrong person...I know things come around to people when we give up,have given up and least expect it.It always has for me,every single time.I actually am involved yet not "in" love as I should be.I rather be in someone else's shoes but guess we tend to wish we where in another life,lol....There were nights of great loneliness for me and heck even still are at times even though I have someone,yet the next morning I always feel a little better and some hope(false hope?)....I am waiting in my situation ,trying to be gently for she has had so much abuse and heart-ache....she has moved out but is staying here right now for she just had a surgury for her kidney stone and well now has a kidney problem.....I am always looking conversation if you'd ever like to email and talk about anything or nothing at all.....stillbuggin30@yahoo.com.....there was another comment I wanted to make but it slipped my mind.....lol....have a great one and well I had my true love once...I think there is hope for us all......Jo
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 11:07pm
Thank u! I would like to take up your offer of friendship and a lending ear. Do u mind? Ten years, I could not imagine. I'm looking at one year in Nov. and it is killing me. But looking more toward a LTR and will not stop looking until I find it. I just get a little down at times. Forgive me all. My weakness.
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 11:29pm
Live in a small town and just outside Kingston, NY. Doesn't seem to be a church that promises gay relationships , local gay bar is a ways from here but doesn't matter because I am not a bar tender, LOL. Feel like I don't belong anywhere. I'm definately not relying on a man, this is not what I want. Any insight from anyone?
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 11:31pm
No, I don't mind! You may email anytime you wish. I don't think you need to be forgiven for anything. I don't think you are weak either.

:)

Hugs,

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 12:38am

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Sat, 10-09-2004 - 1:26am
Hi Buterfli Hon...
You got some nice advice already and nice offers also.. Do not let rj convince you **Smiles** that she is not as into giving great advice as all out here because man some of her posts and her e-mails to me are right on and deep..
I know what it's like to be both alone and lonely..
I have been in a couple relationships where 1,.. I was lonle... the other I was with someone but alone in my spirit..
I emancpated myself and learned to live by myself and learned of me..
I am a lot like Jo in that friendship would be enough for me with cuddeling.. I have a great friend/partner that I have been with for 7 years now.. It was a friendship at first and when we got together we talked about what we both liked/disliked and surprizingly was much the same and the things not? Well we both were pretty much the same on understanding that also,that

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