The weekend....

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The weekend....
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Fri, 10-08-2004 - 10:33am
My 17 year old son...fresh out of rehab.... is having his 17 y/o girlfriend...also fresh out of rehab ....stay at our house for the weekend

So..not only do we have to stress about the possibilty of falling off the wagon, I have to stress about the possibility of becoming a grandmother...at the same time as a mother....

I am PAYING for his condoms...and told him just in case that little thing of his gets out of hand...so to speak........

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Registered: 10-08-2003
In reply to: tookie12
Mon, 10-11-2004 - 9:59pm

How did the weekend go?


~C

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:15am
I learned alot from some of those "old drunks". But I hear what he is saying. lol.

has anybody from after care given you a list of N.A. meetings. If he finds a good A.A. group he will find more people his age and others there recovering from drugs.

Most of the people in A.A. meetings are recovery from both if not one or the other.

Just keep going until he finds one that fits. Also he might have hit a night when some of the people did not show so never give up the first time.

And if he is ever having a hard time or there are no other meetings tell him to go to the one with the old drunks and tell them why he is there. He will find out a lot of info. I promise!

Hugs,

Laurie
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:25am
Actually...it was very relaxing. She is very cute (I kept my eye on Lise) and sweet. Aunt Flo came to visit her Sat so that put a kabosh on some plans. I'm fairly certain tho that he lost his Virginity Friday nite ~sigh~ Lise and I had some fun making fun of the hicky on his neck too.

Last nite at the parents part of his outpatient program Lise and I were presented with a "thank you" certificate from him. Thanking us for trusting them and allowing his girl to stay ...so that was nice.

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:26am
Thanks Laurie...I'm not about to give up...IHe so SO self assured that he has this disease under control that it scares me.

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:21am

It sounds like things went quite well. I am so glad.


Ya know, I really think you did the right thing this weekend. I caught a lot of flack from friends and such because I gave kid sis condoms whenever she asked and a pg test when she thought she was preggers - all of this without telling my parents. But I don't regret doing any of it. The thing I realized was that she was going to do it, no matter what I did or did not do and no matter what they did. My parents approach to sexual issues is about like their approach to everything else - don't talk about it, don't think about it, ignore it and it will go away. If I had sent her to them, nothing productive would have been accomplished. Though I may be very angry with her at this point in time, she is still my sister and if she had ended up with *something* (a baby, a disease, etc...) because of unprotected sex, I would have felt very guilty that I could have done something to prevent it and hadn't. I think kids make their own choices, oft times NOT what we would have them do, but if you know its going to happen anyways, you have to try and help as best you can. You are a good mom.


I'm really glad that things went so well - and that you like gf, she sounds like a great kid.


I'm glad he realizes what great parents he has - that certificate was a very awesome thing.


>>>Lise and I had some fun making fun of the hicky on his neck too.<<<


Note to self: Make sure all of *my* hickies are out of sight this weekend. hehehe


~C

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 9:59am

(((((((Tookie))))))))) I know I'm way late with this post but I finally got here:)

~ ML ~  

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:04am
Thanks Traci

We have been to al-anon....there is a soft spot for that organization for us (Thats where we met!) and have tried Family anonymous....we havent found a group that clicks yet but we'll keep looking

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 11:36am

Note to self: Make sure all of *my* hickies are out
of sight this weekend. hehehe


Hickies?

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 11:41am

>>>Hickies?

~C

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