i cant handle it!

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Registered: 08-15-2004
i cant handle it!
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Sun, 10-10-2004 - 11:58pm
i need some help. im not so sure i can handle my girl moving. she is the only one i have down here. its going to be hard being away from her that long. we will be fine, but what am i supposed to do now. she is everything to me.i love her and im going to miss her more than anything in this entire world. i dont think i can make it without her here. somebody please help me!! thanks alot, jen
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 12:42am


Hey Jen, I sent you my addy's through your profile! Hold on! just for now you'll be ok! Just take it easy and relax.

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 1:31am
Tiger, You can handle this, we will be ok. I will miss you too.....I LOVE YOU! smooch, smooch, smooch, smooch - Pussycat

Sandr

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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 8:19am
Hi Jen, here are my thoughts. You and sandra create phone time, send emails, letters, cards, etc. it is the little things like that, that makes the person you love cared about and that you are thinking of them. Create rituals, such as keeping a journal and sharing when you visit each other. When you visit each other, take pictures, have long talks and create a scrapbook or photo album of the things you do together. Do unexpected surprises and communicate with each other about your feelings and emotions. Schedule visits for both you. That is my ideas, I am just a hopeless romantic and feel a long distance relationship is worth pursuing. There are lots of possibities to keep the relationship strong, lasting and exciting! It will give you both a chance to really learn about each other more and really listen to each other. Follow your hearts and it is about give and take. Yes, the relationship will hit bumps in the road as relationships do, just work it out and make up when you both are anger. Nuture and take care of each other and yourself. Have fun and laugh together.

That is my thoughts for the day, gracemae59
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 10:36am
Hi Jen,

It will be hard missing your girl. I am giving you my e-mail if you feel like writing so please do not be shy. didoangst@aol.com.

You might need to stay busy with hobbies, writing, sports, or whatever you prefer. Not that it will stop you from missing someone you love, but it will help the time pass a bit more quickly.

Do you have hobbies or things that you like to do? Let me know what it is you enjoy doing.

We are here for you, you know that. I know it is not the same as being with your girl in person, but it is something to help fill the void.

I hope that you can hook up with sandra soon.

Feel free to write.

Thinking of you,

hugs,

Laurie
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 11:11am

Jen, the important thing

Kim
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Mon, 10-11-2004 - 11:20am

(((((((Jen)))))))


I know it must seem like it will be forever but really it's not.


Kim has some real wisdom to share with you.

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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:09am
laurie,

thank you for all your help. i will still get to see her we will be fine. i am going to be busy playing softball everyday. so hopefully the time will go by fast.i cant believe she is really going though she is leaving tomorrow. i love her and i will miss her. again thank you. i like to watch movies too. thats about all my hobbies, my other hobbie is leaving for a bit!!!. thanks, jen
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:12am
thank you baby!! i love you and i know we will be fine. love, tiger
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 12:16am
gracemae,

thanks alot. i know we will be fine, but i need your help with something else. will you help me with something creative for my girl. i mean i can be but when i cant see her i want to send her somthing that cool. thanks again, jen
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 8:56am

((((((((((((Jen))))))))))))


This is hard, but you CAN do it.


Stock up on phone cards or make sure you both have a great long distance plan, write love letters long hand - LOTS of them, send cards, e-mail, IM, stay in touch. Long distance is hard, but it can be done. And I think that relationships really have the chance to develop so much stronger and deeper this way, once you remove the physical you will be able to concentrate more fully on the emotional. The foundation that can be built that way, can be VERY strong and deep.


While you two are apart, do things that will be beneficial to you, now and always. I saw you play softball, that is great. Keep that up. Will you be going to school? Getting an education is THE best thing that you can do for yourself, for Sandra, and for the two of you as a couple. If you and Sandra don't work out in the long run, you will need something to fall back on for yourself. And if you two DO make it (I think you can, I really do), what if something unforseeable were to happen to Sandra and she couldn't work? It would be up to you to be the bread-winner in the family and to do that with any success you will need your education. It really is the most important thing, no matter what happens in the future. There are SO many ways to go about getting a degree in something these days, it is very doable for anyone. You can get financial aid. You can take classes online. You can go to a community college and get an associates degree or specialists certificate in just about anything. You can go to a 4-year university and get a bachelors - even more options there than in a community college. You can start school having NO clue what you are interested in, by the time you get your pre-req.'s out of the way you should know. And if not, you can get a liberal arts degree which opens plenty of doors all by itself.


Good luck and big hugs! We're here for you anytime.


~C