Taking baby steps (long)

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Taking baby steps (long)
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 12:16am
Hi girls! Well, I have to admit I was off to a rocky start the first couple days in my new house, living without a man for the first time in over 10 years. I was pretty worried actually. I missed my (ex) husband carrying things, and hooking things up, and stuff like that. Maybe I am just lazy....

The other day I told my Dad that I didn't have any tools so he gave me some. He was explaining how to use a socket wrench and I was only half listening because I really never thought I would need to know how to use it. Well, tonight I hung window shades by myself, took down mini blinds, and needed to use that socket wrench to take down some ugly curtain rods the previous renter hung. I did it all by myself and was so excited! I know that must sound really stupid to most of you but I feel so much more capable now. It was so easy and I know that most of the things he did were also probably easy - I just never tried.

You know, many times I wanted to stay with my husband, and hide my feelings for women even longer. I was going to make that sacrifice just to not have to deal with things that he normally did. I wanted to keep my big house, and my big bank account. Now, I look back and think I must have been crazy. My life is so wonderful now! I have a beautiful little townhouse, I even like it better than my big house. I have my own bank account, and its not so small. (it is shrinking fast however -time to look for a job!) My daughter and I are having a blast, no more uncomfortable silence in the house.... I have my sisters and my brother and my parents. My old friends are coming around. Life is good - and when you all told me it would be I just couldn't see it then.

My Ex husband keeps calling and yelling about stuff - accusing me of hiding car titles and bank statements. Once he finds them when we are on the phone, there is no apology - just more complaining. He is a good man, but I don't need or want a man. I feel free and happy for the very first time in my whole life.

Life is good - thank you all for helping me make the right decision.

Hugs, Sandra

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:49am

*** I feel free and happy for the very first time in my whole life. ***


I am so proud and happy for you Sandra ! Keep that attitude going and you will be just fine :o)


Hugs,

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 10:08am

Congratulations Sandra!

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 10:12am
next thing you'll know you will be walking around home depot with a tape measure clipped to your pocket and pricing out nice leather tool belts!

You GO girl!

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:24am
Sandralea, I am so excited for you.

You sound free and happy.

The strange thing is, I have always live with other women and I have always felt free and happy. (with one exception)

To bad we are not there to give you a house warming party. We could get you things like tools and you very own tool box. Lessons on small home repairs, how to use a plunger.

How to fix the toilet guts. You know all the things a lesbian needs to know.

I am so happy to hear that things are good for you and your daughter.

Keep us posted.

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 5:43pm
Back a long time ago in a galaxy far. far away...

Actually in 1995, my husband and I separated. I found an affordable apartment outside of the city. I had never hooked up my washer and dryer before. So, here I am with my washer and dryer. There wasn't much room between the two machines. I pulled one out a bit, so I could squeeze in between it and the wall. My husband and I had rented a house before we split. It for some reason took what is called a "mobile home" hook up. I was a bit stupid and decided I needed to figure out if it fit the holes. LOL

So, I took the plug and stuck it in the wall outlet. The outlet had juice! The plug was not connected to the machine. The plug began dancing around like a snake doing jumping jacks. I jumped onto the machine trying to avoid the possessed plug. It would hit the floor and sparks would fly along with a

bang, bang, bang. Finally the last bang yielded a big puff of black smoke!

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 7:51pm
Nice, Sandra! There are some things we miss about the past, and some things we don't... being free and being ourselves counts for so much.

Tonight I received a call from an old client, says he misses the work I did for him. Given how it all crashed and burned, it is nice to know that someone appreciated what I did... but that is the past now, there is a different and better future ahead!

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:27pm
Thats Great Sandra!.. Does feel good to break the chains that bound us doesn't it?..
Emancipation is so ...well.... Freeing... Haaaaaa..
Enjoy Hon and keep in touch..
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:38pm
OK, I am REALLY glad that did not happen to me! I would have flipped out. God is really taking care of me, I guess you really do only get what you can handle in life - you must be much stronger than me! Thanks for the scary story...lol. Sandra

Sandr

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:40pm
Yes Nelle, there is - we can never forget that. I say a really cool sign today. It said "A dead end is always a good place to turn around". I thought that was pretty appropriate for so many people, if they would only do it. Most tend to keep walking into that same dead end, I know I did.

Sandr

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:43pm
It feel better than anything I ever experienced before - and I can see it in my daughters face that she looks at me much differenty than she used to. I don't think she thought I could do this....but I am showing her different. It's a great feeling! Sandra

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