Taking baby steps (long)

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Taking baby steps (long)
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 12:16am
Hi girls! Well, I have to admit I was off to a rocky start the first couple days in my new house, living without a man for the first time in over 10 years. I was pretty worried actually. I missed my (ex) husband carrying things, and hooking things up, and stuff like that. Maybe I am just lazy....

The other day I told my Dad that I didn't have any tools so he gave me some. He was explaining how to use a socket wrench and I was only half listening because I really never thought I would need to know how to use it. Well, tonight I hung window shades by myself, took down mini blinds, and needed to use that socket wrench to take down some ugly curtain rods the previous renter hung. I did it all by myself and was so excited! I know that must sound really stupid to most of you but I feel so much more capable now. It was so easy and I know that most of the things he did were also probably easy - I just never tried.

You know, many times I wanted to stay with my husband, and hide my feelings for women even longer. I was going to make that sacrifice just to not have to deal with things that he normally did. I wanted to keep my big house, and my big bank account. Now, I look back and think I must have been crazy. My life is so wonderful now! I have a beautiful little townhouse, I even like it better than my big house. I have my own bank account, and its not so small. (it is shrinking fast however -time to look for a job!) My daughter and I are having a blast, no more uncomfortable silence in the house.... I have my sisters and my brother and my parents. My old friends are coming around. Life is good - and when you all told me it would be I just couldn't see it then.

My Ex husband keeps calling and yelling about stuff - accusing me of hiding car titles and bank statements. Once he finds them when we are on the phone, there is no apology - just more complaining. He is a good man, but I don't need or want a man. I feel free and happy for the very first time in my whole life.

Life is good - thank you all for helping me make the right decision.

Hugs, Sandra

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:44pm
Thank you Robin!

Sandr

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:45pm
Thanks Pam! Sandra

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:47pm
Oh let's hope not! LOL Sandra

Sandr

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 9:49pm
I wish I could have you ALL for a housewarming party!!!! Since I missed M&G. Hugs, Sandra

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 10:55pm
Congrats. You have found your life. I know what it feels like. I was married for 25 yrs. and just luv doing things myself. I was scared at first also but you get past that and control your own destiny. Good luck to u and happy living on your own, for yourself.
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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:40pm
Thank you Butterfli, I look forward to it! Sandra

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