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| Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:56pm |
As you all know, I am in my first lesbian relationship. I am 100% in love with Jen. Lately, I have been trying to make friends with people like myself but I feel a little guilty because I don't want Jen to get mad/jealous. We discussed it tonight, and although she says it's ok and fine, I get the feeling she is insecure about it. I guess I should just take her at her word.
In an opposite sex relationship, men don't get jealous over female friends. Now everything has changed. So am I supposed to make friends with men now? I can't even stand most men...that's a topic for another day. I have become anti-male since I came out, I didn't want that to happen, it's just how I feel.
I began emailing a wonderful woman I met online, I thought we had alot in common and could be friends, apparently that isn't possible. So, since I am in a relationship is contact with other women considered a no-no?
What's the rule? Does anyone have their lesbian handbook out.....if so, please let me know what it says!
Sandra

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Well Sandra, as far as I'm concerned you can be friends with anyone you want to be friends with, I have plenty straight male friends and they respect me as I am. I have a female friend that I'm close to, and I can talk with her about anything. And she can tell me anything. If Jen doesn't object, then what's stopping you?
I keep my one female friend, that is straight, at a distance and I let her live her life, because I know nothing's going to come of it other than friendship (darn! lol). But, anyway, go ahead and have some friends, there's nothing wrong with it.
Hugs!
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Sandr
Sandr
Of course it is okay to have friends who are other women. I think it is healthy to have friends. I have a whole mixed bag of friends some female, some male, some gay and some straight. All shapes, sizes, colors and religions. I think I would go mad if I could not have friends.
I also think a relationship would grow very stale if there were only the two of you. I know it might not feel like it at first but later it will.
So have fun and get to know some new friends. For those who don't work out, leave 'em in the dust and don't look back or take it personnaly. Not all people click or become friends.
Cherish the friends or people who do become your friends and do not worry about the others.
Just don't pretend you are single if you are not unless you are wanting more than a friendship.
You are doing good so far Sandralea I am very proud of how you are taking charge of things there. I had to use the plunger tonight hoo rah!
Take care,
hugs
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Have a great day! Sandra
Sandr
(((((((Sandra)))))))
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
Before I even read this Jen, I knew this would be your response.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
It is only natural that you would want a few lesbian friends Sandra.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
Sandr
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