Friends & Girlfriends

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Mon, 10-25-2004 - 11:56pm
As you all know, I am in my first lesbian relationship. I am 100% in love with Jen. Lately, I have been trying to make friends with people like myself but I feel a little guilty because I don't want Jen to get mad/jealous. We discussed it tonight, and although she says it's ok and fine, I get the feeling she is insecure about it. I guess I should just take her at her word.

In an opposite sex relationship, men don't get jealous over female friends. Now everything has changed. So am I supposed to make friends with men now? I can't even stand most men...that's a topic for another day. I have become anti-male since I came out, I didn't want that to happen, it's just how I feel.

I began emailing a wonderful woman I met online, I thought we had alot in common and could be friends, apparently that isn't possible. So, since I am in a relationship is contact with other women considered a no-no?

What's the rule? Does anyone have their lesbian handbook out.....if so, please let me know what it says!

Sandra

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:21am
Darlin be friends with whoever you want to be with. dont let me stop you. yes at times i feel insecure but with myself, i just dont want to lose you. anyways i love you and im glad that you are 100% in love with me. because i am too with you! love, tiger
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:25am


Well Sandra, as far as I'm concerned you can be friends with anyone you want to be friends with, I have plenty straight male friends and they respect me as I am. I have a female friend that I'm close to, and I can talk with her about anything. And she can tell me anything. If Jen doesn't object, then what's stopping you?

I keep my one female friend, that is straight, at a distance and I let her live her life, because I know nothing's going to come of it other than friendship (darn! lol). But, anyway, go ahead and have some friends, there's nothing wrong with it.

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:38am
Hey!You weren't supposed to see this...lol! Never be insecure with yourself because you are the most beautiful woman in the world....love you- pook

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 12:41am
All my friends are straight, my only gay friends are my partner and my sister, I should just be content with that I suppose. I don't know what is going on with me, I think I must be half nuts.....sandra

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:08am
Ohhhhh (((((Sandralea)))))

Of course it is okay to have friends who are other women. I think it is healthy to have friends. I have a whole mixed bag of friends some female, some male, some gay and some straight. All shapes, sizes, colors and religions. I think I would go mad if I could not have friends.

I also think a relationship would grow very stale if there were only the two of you. I know it might not feel like it at first but later it will.

So have fun and get to know some new friends. For those who don't work out, leave 'em in the dust and don't look back or take it personnaly. Not all people click or become friends.

Cherish the friends or people who do become your friends and do not worry about the others.

Just don't pretend you are single if you are not unless you are wanting more than a friendship.

You are doing good so far Sandralea I am very proud of how you are taking charge of things there. I had to use the plunger tonight hoo rah!

Take care,

hugs
Laurie

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 8:07am
Laurie, Thanks for the kind words. I had to use, well, first I had to go buy, a plunger yesterday too! It seems there is something wrong with the water pressure in my downstairs bathroom, so the landlord actually is coming to look at it this morning. Of course he blamed me, we have used that bathroom like twice and had trouble with it both times.....Oh I dread being a renter again. I need to remember that anything that happens around here will inevitably be my fault!

Have a great day! Sandra

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:29am

(((((((Sandra)))))))

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:30am

Before I even read this Jen, I knew this would be your response.

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:32am

It is only natural that you would want a few lesbian friends Sandra.

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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 10:55am
Thanks Pam, Jen called last night with a few questions, but then said the same thing you did. She said just because it didn't work out with one person doesn't mean I should quit trying. Jen actually told me that if I wanted lesbian friends, go find some! She's a great woman, wise way beyond her years, and so loving, kind and giving. I don't know I lucked out with her. It made me realize that besides Jen and my sister, I already have lesbian friends - right here on the board! Hugs, Sandra

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