Giggling schoolgirls?
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| Tue, 10-26-2004 - 3:52pm |
I am in a training class for a position with the state. When hired, I told the interviewer (my supervisor was one of the interviewers, a woman who was retired was assisting her) that I was a transsexual. Our class is training in an adjacent building to where we will work, and we are now... 12 days into training. Today my supervisor asked to see me, and she outlined how there are rumours circulating about me. She was an absolute sweetheart, and was very upset with this happening, that I was one of the ones she insisted on hiring, and she does not wish me to leave. She told me they were calling a meeting to tell everyone it was none of their business, and I would assume remind them of what being professional means and what state regulations are. She also told me that if anyone gives me a hard time to let her know, because it is discrimination.
Wow. I don't wish to be the cause of problems, just wish to do my work, be a good person and colleague, and the only way to win them over is to do and be just that.
How they know is uncertain... the only way people can tell usually is by my voice, if power is required behind it it will give me away. There are 5 women and 2 men in my class, and of all of us... one guy is from the department where this started, and they were having him take this class... there was something about his attitude that seemed off, though I could not put my finger on it... how he interacted with our trainer, his insistence on breaks, etc... like an institutionalised employee. Where I come from, there was no such thing as breaks, though when working for myself worked late and took breaks when I felt the need.
I talked with the women in my training class, explained what was happening, they were all wonderful... spoke with the trainer and she wanted to choke someone. So while this is only speculation, speculation I'll only share with friends, family, or in this way... this is a shining example of how some guys are so damn immature about human sexuality, it's like they've never gotten past 16. And to think there is a stereotype of giggling schoolgirls... I submit that there are giggling grown men out there as well.
Edited 10/26/2004 3:56 pm ET ET by rayeellen

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I am so glad you brought this up.
G/F is going through this, her assistant whom she insisted on hiring has started to work for her this week.
Two people started to spread rumers that she is/was really a man.
They were discussing it in the back office. Thses people also know about g/f and I.
G/f said that she thinks she put a stop to it, but she is still trying to figure out how to deal with it incase it is going on behind her back.
Her assistant has not said anything to her whether or not she is a transexual. Only that she did not work for 2 years and did not go in to detail.
She is from out of town and lives/ commutes 45 mins each way to work now.
G/f said she always wear a scarf and does have some male traits, like in her voice and hands. She is rather upset at her staff for being immature about this and they really do not even have a confirmation about it. She does not want to offend this woman by asking and really I do not think she is permitted to ask. The company states that it does not discriminate against GLBT or anyone else.
When rumors were spread about us a few years ago we just decided to tell them that they were correct. People then seemed to respect us more and got to know us better and treated us as a couple. I no longer work there but have remain friends with the women there. We hang out or go shoping etc. on their day off while G/f is working. She is a Manager so they do not do as many friend kind of things with her and she prefers it that way.
I hope if g/f assistant is transexual that she will eventually come out. I don't think she would be treated badly because of it. G/f said the staff is not being derrogatory about it, just wondering and asking her etc. She told them that it just doesn't matter and as far as they and she know she is a woman.
I think you have done a brave thing nelle and I sure hope that you will be respected for it.
I also can see the other side of someone not wanting to come out to people.
We do have a large GLBT community here so maybe that is why it seems to be more accepted. Are GLBT community is also very politically active and the politicians are always at out functions and gay pride.
I just hope that you get the respect you deserve and they better treat you like the woman you are! If not I will join Sandralea's brigade.
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i wanna be friends... hey, raye... ummm, what do you mean you're a transsexual? you were a guy before? Or are you in the process of becoming one? if i seem dumb, sorry, i'm just so surprised...
lmaooooo... nah, think things will be ok, but I will file this for future reference!
I really didn't wish to be outed, but it's my own fault for not paying more attention to my voice in settings involving larger groups... I do fine in casual and close conversation... but group settings and talking to people away from me is harder, because I am very soft spoken... and speaking up adversely affects me. To me, I'm only a transsexual until surgery... after that, no way, it is my past and not my future. I don't wish everyone to always think of me as such. I just wish to live my life as a woman and as a dyke... those are my identities. Would guess that is what your partner's assistant feels as well. BTW... Pam has a pic up on one of the LL pages if ya wish to see. Here's another...
http://img.villagephotos.com/p/2004-9/832051/madisonnight.jpg
Edited 10/30/2004 10:15 pm ET ET by rayeellen
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