Giggling schoolgirls?

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Giggling schoolgirls?
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Tue, 10-26-2004 - 3:52pm
My day... (we need an eyeroll icon!)

I am in a training class for a position with the state. When hired, I told the interviewer (my supervisor was one of the interviewers, a woman who was retired was assisting her) that I was a transsexual. Our class is training in an adjacent building to where we will work, and we are now... 12 days into training. Today my supervisor asked to see me, and she outlined how there are rumours circulating about me. She was an absolute sweetheart, and was very upset with this happening, that I was one of the ones she insisted on hiring, and she does not wish me to leave. She told me they were calling a meeting to tell everyone it was none of their business, and I would assume remind them of what being professional means and what state regulations are. She also told me that if anyone gives me a hard time to let her know, because it is discrimination.

Wow. I don't wish to be the cause of problems, just wish to do my work, be a good person and colleague, and the only way to win them over is to do and be just that.

How they know is uncertain... the only way people can tell usually is by my voice, if power is required behind it it will give me away. There are 5 women and 2 men in my class, and of all of us... one guy is from the department where this started, and they were having him take this class... there was something about his attitude that seemed off, though I could not put my finger on it... how he interacted with our trainer, his insistence on breaks, etc... like an institutionalised employee. Where I come from, there was no such thing as breaks, though when working for myself worked late and took breaks when I felt the need.

I talked with the women in my training class, explained what was happening, they were all wonderful... spoke with the trainer and she wanted to choke someone. So while this is only speculation, speculation I'll only share with friends, family, or in this way... this is a shining example of how some guys are so damn immature about human sexuality, it's like they've never gotten past 16. And to think there is a stereotype of giggling schoolgirls... I submit that there are giggling grown men out there as well.






Edited 10/26/2004 3:56 pm ET ET by rayeellen

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:20pm
Thanks, Pam... I told them because we've been friendly and figured it was better for me to say it than for them to hear it once we get over there. They are totally kewl with it. I've heard horror stories of people objecting to our using ladies rooms in other places... would be totally humiliated if anyone did such a thing. So the support is great!

And I love your attitude! If only we all withheld judgement until we've a reason to have an opinion, this world would be a better place.

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:23pm
>>hey raye...

i wanna be friends... hey, raye... ummm, what do you mean you're a transsexual? you were a guy before? Or are you in the process of becoming one? if i seem dumb, sorry, i'm just so surprised...<<

rofl.... no need to apoligise. I was born physically male, simply a birth defect that is going to be corrected. Had I not lost my business, that correction would have been 6 December, or... 37 days from now.

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:28pm

I love that pic!

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 10:29pm

*smooches*


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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 11:12pm
lmaooooooooooooooooooooooo! To da moon with ya... dear daughter? That woman was almost my legal partner. OK, so I'm 15 years older, sigh. That pic was taken on the grounds of the Wisconsin state capitol building.

*hugs* back!


Edited 10/30/2004 11:14 pm ET ET by rayeellen

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Sat, 10-30-2004 - 11:58pm
Nice pic, who is the woman sitting with you. I have seen the other pic on the web page before.

I hope the people at work are treating you well. Some people are just so ignorant.

Hugs,
Laurie

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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 11:08am

Almost your legal partner?

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Sun, 10-31-2004 - 11:48am
Kind of like planning ivf and turning back at the door ;-)
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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 2:50am
it's a physical defect because you feel female, inside? ummm, we don't have to talk about anything you don't ffel comfortable talking about, yet...

cheers,

Jules

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Mon, 11-01-2004 - 2:54am
Alright Raye, I just read this, so I think I understand, better...