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| Wed, 11-03-2004 - 10:44am |
Next problem. I tried to break up with Jen last night. I have so much in my life I feel like I am neglecting her and she deserves so much more. She calls several times throughout the day and I find myself at a loss for words because we talk so much there is nothing new to say. I do not have time for chit chat and feel so stressed and guilty that I can't just stop everything 5 times a day and make light conversation even if I wanted to. She is so sweet and understanding but at the same time begs for more attention, and she deserves that, but I just don't have time and energy for a relationship right now. I miss and love Jen, but she is young and should be having fun with people her own age. I want her to move on with her life and if it is meant to be we will see eachother again someday. She went ballistic, and we agreed to one phone call a day - when I call her, and email contact. I want so much more for her, I wish she wasn't settling like this. She is so beautiful and funny and could be having so much fun with someone without so many problems. I can't make her see she is wasting her life on this long distance relationship with me.
I love Jen and Leanne, and want their happiness. If you pray, please pray for my best girls. Thanks for listening, Sandra

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Her father files for divorce and she is ok with that.
We plan to move to PA to be with family, and she is ready and excited to begin a new life.
I get involved with Jen while we are wrapping things up and preparing to move.
Leanne is mad, and wants Jen gone.
Leanne wants to move to PA immediately to get away from Jen, or get Jen and I apart.
Then I tell her Jen wants to come, she tells me if Jen comes, she's staying in OK.
We leave Jen and come here.
Jen and I are apart and Leanne is happy.
Leanne now wants to leave me and go back to OK.
Final result - she split us up. Game over, Leanne wins.
I am afraid my very intelligent daughter is going to have to come up with a new plan, I'm calling it Operation Suck It UP! She is going to stay here and give this a chance. Thats that.
Thanks again Kim! Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
How are you feeling today.
Have you had a chance to talk with Leanne about being gay and Jen yet.
Maybe it would be nice to talk about it over a nice dinner at a favorite restaurant.
Tell her how you are feeling and how much it would mean to you if she would try to be more open minded.
I don't know, I hope she will come around soon.
Hugs,
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Now I feel guilty about only 1 thing, that I broke up with her. She will move on, and I just lost the best woman ever. I am sure someday I will be kicking myself, but I will cross that bridge when I get to it.
Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
GREAT advice Kimmie!
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>I'm calling it Operation Suck It UP! She is going to stay here and give this a chance. Thats that.
Wooooooooooooo Hooooooooooo!
Go Mom Go!
Hang in there and don't give in.
Hugs from Pam
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I can see how it would be exhausting to have someone calling so much. Been there.
So it's the age thing... Well, I don't know but I think that would be easier for her to eventually overcome. Maybe later.
I am sorry that you had to break up with Jen. I hope things can start working out soon,
I think Kim has alot of great advice.
Sorry to hear that you are hurting, but I still do not think that you should be feeling guilty about anything you feel you need to do to make your life better. That is survival.
We all have a right to that.
Hugs,
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Hi Sandra,
Sandr
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