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Thu, 11-04-2004 - 1:13pm
I've lurked here and posted once or twice, but it's probably been a year or more.

My name is Jackie. I'm 27, live in MD, have a boa constrictor, 2 kids, I'm a lesbian, and I'm married to a man who is bisexual.

I grew up in the Bible belt and never really learned what lesbian or gay meant. I knew I had to get out of the locker room quickly before anyone caught me looking (god some of those girls were hot, but I was living in Arkansas!). I went to college, tried dating some guys, finally started dating my now-dh. We were best friends and when he asked me to marry him, I said yes. I didn't think I felt the way I should for him, but figured this was probably going to be my only chance to get married.

He was open about being bisexual and I was fine with that, of course I had no idea what bisexual meant either. He told me he didn't think I was straight and I got offended. Of course I was straight; I grew up Baptist and married a man! lol

After a couple years we started talking more and I finally learned what bisexual meant. To his credit, he didn't know that I didn't understand. I was able to open up also about finding women attractive. He wasn't shocked, just said he knew. Then he asked me if I'd ever been attracted to a man. I was embarrassed to say no. He said he knew that too, even in regards to him. In the last year or so I've taken a lot of steps forward. I acknowledge that I'm a lesbian, but because I do love my husband and he's my best friend, I am staying in the marriage. I'm finally out of the closet also. We attend a unitarian universalist church where we've been able to get involved with a GLBT group. I have told my mom but haven't ventured into talking to my dad yet.

We have been seeing another couple where both the husband and wife are bisexual. We have kids the same age, we've gotten to be good friends, and the fringe benefits keep everyone happy (probably way TMI there!).

I've been thinking about becoming active on this board, but it's just taken me awhile to make it back over here. Part of me has been concerned about whether or not I'd be accepted because of being in a m/f relationship, but I figure this is who I am and I just have to jump in. :)

Jackie

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: jmalone833
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 12:45am
Hey, thank you Lee. I like the little clapping guy.

Hugs,

Laurie
Laurie

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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 7:21am
Hey Caly! I remembered you as soon as I saw the screenname. :) I dropped all my boards and chats about 6 months ago because of being pregnant, moving, and my health was going downhill pretty fast. Baby's 2 months old now, housing situation is settled, and my health is about as stable as it's going to get. I'm having my first semi-painfree day in about 3 weeks. Yay! Anyway, I'm in the process of reapplying so hopefully I'll be seeing you back on the board in just a few weeks!

Jackie

P.S. Have some great pics of my kids at http://photos.yahoo.com/firstmalone

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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 8:00am

Heyyyy Jackie,


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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 1:41pm

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: jmalone833
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 3:58pm
Haaahaaa, well you will certainly do well then.

I never wear the ball cap either I hate to have hat head as well. You could probably trade it in for an extra chapstick or something.

Ice cream makers?? I need to find a new member. I came in under the toaster act.

I enjoyed reading your answers, you will do very well. You should ask to test out. I hear it is allowed in the "Blue States".

Hugs,
Laurie

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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Registered: 09-29-2003
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 11:07pm

You~~~~`are quite welcome..((((Hon))))~~~Lee


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Registered: 09-29-2003
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 11:17pm
((((((((Hugs Lori and Sandy))))))) glad you two had the session and the wonderful time after together.."CAT"

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Sat, 11-06-2004 - 9:40am

Hiya Cat,


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