Lesbian relationship libido conflicts...

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Lesbian relationship libido conflicts...
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Mon, 11-08-2004 - 3:26pm
The delema- Many lesbian relationships involve plenty of lovemaking in the begining.

After a few years the lovemaking sessions become few and far between in many lesbian relationships. (For example- Mine)

I have gone through many emotions and thoughts such as, what is wrong with me, us?

She is no longer attracted to me, she loves me, but is not in love with me.

G/f says she can't believe I would question her love for me. She says she is more in love with me all the time. She says she is in love with me, but she just has a very low to no libido. We even went to the Dr. to see if she could help. The answer, a perscription for Wellbutrin. Which after several months may be showing some change.

The situation is this, she is happy not having sex/makinglove, and I am not! I have been called a sex addict which I am not sure of that.

We have been together for 7 1/2 years and I have a hard time thinking I might only have sex either never again or very few times. Yes a person could take matters in to their own hands, and I have been busted a few times, but it is not the same.

I have had other women tell me they would be my sex partner, but of course that is not an option if I want to stay in this relationship.

How do others deal with this??

Is it fair for one person in a relationship to expect the other to never have sex?

How do you over come the need for a sexual relationship and feel okay being in a sexless relationship. I am talking we have sometimes gone a year or more without.

I feel like she is not in love with me, but I do not think she would be here if she wasn't.

No she is not cheating and never has. All her time is spent with me or accounted for.

She shows me and tells me in many ways that she loves me and is in love with me.

She loves to kiss and cuddle and plenty of hand holding in the car etc.

She talks about our future and has designed matching rings that she wants us to have made when we can afford them. They will be very expensive.

She tells me that she cannot imagine having anyone else in her life.

So can someone please help me with how to deal with this?

Thanks and hugs,
Laurie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 11:01am

But you expressed it so beautifully.


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