Hey rj...Look what I found!!!!!

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Hey rj...Look what I found!!!!!
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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 7:11pm
Didn't you say you are from Hickory in your persnal ad??

I was looking at the GLBT Bar info for Kim and Courtney and look what I found. I was interested to find out if there was anything in your area since you have been having a rough time. I hope this helps!

Hickory

Area Code (828)

# Club Cabaret,

101 N. Center St., 322.8103

Isn't this your area?? All you have to do is go there or call and tell them you are new to the lesbian community and want some info on the bar and other places to mingle with lesbians.

The people who work at the bars always have the scoop on everything and everyone.

I hope you will check it out!

I am excited to think you have a GLBT Community in your area. Please let me know if this is good.

Maybe there is Hope in Hickory!!

Hugs,

Laurie

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 7:35pm
LOL

You are so cute!

Yes, I knew about Club Cabaret. Last week, I walked into the breakroom at work and one of the managers says to me, "Hey, did you know they busted the owner of Club Cabaret for tax evasion?" Like, hello, what does that have to do with me? LOL

The bar isn't very pretty looking on the outside. The windows are painted black. And, it doesn't open until 10 pm. I think I'll just stick with the all couples gay church. LOL I've heard that it is really smokey on the inside as well. It isn't my thing.

I've asked around about gay/lesbian social outlets. The bar and the two gay churches are it.


:) rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 7:46pm
Awwwwwww shoot! Ok. Don't forget softball attracts lesbians too.

Maybe the people at church know of social gatherings or something.

well, Keep me posted.

Hugs,

Laurie
Laurie

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 8:53pm
Laurie,

You are truly a sweetheart. Very few people would take the time to gather that information for me. I don't take that kind of thoughtfulness for granted. Thank you!



I will keep you posted.

rj :)

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 9:02pm
Thank you rj, you are a sweetie too and sometimes I think about you being sad and think there has to be a way to make it better.

Someday huh?

Hugs,
Laurie

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 9:36pm
You know, I'm not typing this to get a sympathy response, but sometimes I wonder if it is me instead of where I live? I don't know, but I just have this gut feeling that it is me. There's something about me that isn't appealing- not to women anyway. I've actually entertained seeking someone to help me discover if I'm truly gay. Perhaps, that is the reason for the rejection I get. Maybe I'm not gay. I don't know who to talk to. Or, I don't know who would be good to talk to.

So, perhaps Hickory isn't really so bad. Maybe I'm just not so good at being a lesbian. Could be worse things that I'm not good at. You know? LOL I've thought about visiting the local Baptist night out club that meets at 7 pm on Saturdays for fun and refreshment. I wonder if surrounded by conservative Baptists if I can figure out if I'm truly gay? LOL

Oh, I'm so wierd. LOL

I need to go to bed.

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 9:58pm
You are Not Weird!~~~~~ You gave good reasons for not wanting to check out that paticular bar.. Heck the painted windows and smoke filled rooms do not sound appealing to me either..

I think.... I know ...if you lived here, and went to The City close by... Noho it's called You would definately be pleasantly surprized....

Only you will beable to find your answers to if you are or are not Lesbian ..It's just a label anyhow.. Lets say perhaps you may like being with femlaes and perhaps you like males too but just can't admit it to yourself or maybe it's you really don't want females and can't admit

 C  >^. A .

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Tue, 11-09-2004 - 10:23pm
I don't think it is you but if it is... Have you ever heard of GAYDAR?

Maybe you just aren't throwing out enough vibes for people to track on their GAYDAR.

Maybe they are not sure how to figure you out, and like you feel they would be or could be harmed if they make a mistake.

Maybe you need to be throwing those lesbian vibes around more woman! haahaaa.

Okay read Jo's post how she met this woman she has a crush on. Check out how she got to know her.

I would say if it is you it is more because maybe you are not flirting a bit. By that I don't mean sexual comments or groping. I just mean smiles, winks or a bit of attention giving.

Ok enough outta me.

Hugs sweetie,

Laurie

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 7:31am
Yes, I've heard of gaydar. I find it very difficult to spot a lesbian woman who is feminine. I wouldn't want to dare mess up and pursue a straight woman by accident. I've done that before. It can have dire consequences. Like with the PFLAG mom that I had a crush on- I thought for sure she was interested in me. I was wrong. Very wrong. She has never treated me the same since that. I had being treated like that- sort of a stand off behavior.

Not that this has happened anytime lately, but the bizarre thing is in the past when my sexuality has been known, I've had straight married women interested in me. This has happened at least three times, which is more times than I can say for lesbian women. LOL I find that to be odd. Of course, you cannot have a healthy relationship with a married woman. And, I would like to add this isn't a part of my imagination, I had all three tell me they were curious.

Well, I've got to go- I'm out of time. CAT, if you are reading this, I plan on responding to your post.

Take care,

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 9:56am
Hi rj,

I believe you about the married women, same happens here, I think it is common because they are curious and figure well maybe this is a chance to find out what it would be like. But yes it would be messy.

Well maybe the church couples will be able to introduce you to some singles. I just think that women might not be comfortable pursueing you for the same reasons you are not comfortable persuing them. The fear of making a mistake.

I have seen your photo so it cannot be an attraction problem.

I just think it is probably a location problem.

I think I am just going to have to come kidnap you and bring you to Indianapolis or Cat will have to take you to Mass. then you will have someone to get you started and introduce you to the GLBT community and show you around etc.

Plus there are so many more job opportunities here in your field. Also major companies that will pay for your schooling while you are working for them.

Some of the major companies here are, Eli Lily, Roche Diagnostics, ITT, many schools and most all businesses need people in your field these days.

Here you can live near the city without being in the city. Many major companies are here along with their corp. offices.

Maybe someday you will take a trip to check it out. Here or Mass. We have several GLBT restaurants, Bars (nice ones) book stores, events and neighborhoods and sports teams. We don't have any hate crimes either. The Mayor and Congress Woman are very supportive of us. too.

So how do we get you to feel comfortable leaving Bubba Town?

Hmmmmmm,

That is the only thing holding you back.

Hugs,

Laurie
Laurie

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 5:20pm
Wow Laurie!

All you typed sounds great. I've never ventured further north than Asheville, NC. I would simply be scared to travel alone to a northern state. Really, I don't know how I would do to be quite honest. Sometimes I surprise myself. Other times, I overestimate my strengths. Right now, I'm so busy with work and school, I find it difficult to find time for much of anything else. I read an article about Tommy Lee and he says, "College is hard work." Yes, college is hard work-combine that with a 40+ hour a week job and time is limited. So, it makes it hard to job search when you find yourself overwhelmed with everything else.

But, I have thought about living elsewhere. I haven't considered it seriously yet, because I still lack the degree. Plus, as I mentioned before the time issue is strained. I am currenlty working a new resume. And, I'm suppose to meet with a guy who teaches job hunting skills by the first of December to help me when I do begin my search.

Thanks for all your compliments. I sometimes feel as if I shouldn't come to this board and post sad messages. Anyway, it is board members like you that brighten everyone's day.

Take care,

rj



rj

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