my first post under this topic

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my first post under this topic
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 5:07pm
well,my name is april and i have been married to my wife donna for 3 months now. we have both told our families but they disapprove of any such relationship. however, my family is more understanding than hers and will at least accept her. any advice??

april
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 5:22pm
Well April, first off, my name is Gigi and welcome to Lesbian Life. Please feel welcome to continue to ask questions!

Well, I put it this way, I'm single at the moment, and if my potential girlfriend's family accepted me and I passed all of their tests, then I would feel soooooo goood, because I know that at least I'm welcomed and loved.

By the way, have some chocolate, and your favorite beverage. Oh, yeah, pull up a nice comfortable cyber seat and get comfortable, and again, welcome!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 8:10pm
Hi April and Welcome...Advice?.. Just be yourselves around your family,

 C  >^. A .

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:38pm

Hi April and Welcome to Lesbian Life.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:33pm
Welcome April & Donna and congratulations on your wedding! I am happy to hear that and hope you are enjoying the honeymoon phase of your marriage. Don't let outsiders get you down. Your families will come around because they love you. You guys just worry about eachother and let the families just have their fit - they will get over it when they see you and Donna are happy and in love. Come back and see us, it's a nice group here.

Hugs, Sandra

Sandr

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 9:05am
Welcome April! I don't really have any words of wisdom for you except to say that as much as we feel and know that being gay is natural and right, sooooo many people in this world don't feel that way and don't understand it. I really do hope Donna's family will come around in time. Hang on to that love and happiness you have with her and you'll get through it.
Ting

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Sat, 11-13-2004 - 1:43am
I am sorry that you are in this unfortunate position. I hope that in time they will get to know you and accept you. Just be yourself and be nice to them.

I know many families take awhile to come around but many of them do eventually or at least fake it.

Like everyone else has said, do not let it get in the way of your love for each other. And no guilt trips on either of your part. Unfortunately it comes with our lifestyle, that many people have a hard time understanding us. I just like to be honest and let them choose if they want to like me or not. If not then I let go also. I am not going to lead a double life like I did at first. That was even harder. So the hardest part is over, now just lay back and hope for the best in the future. Give them some time to maranade on it and get to know you better as a couple.

Hugs and best wishes.

Come back to us here and know that you have a lot of support.
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Sat, 11-13-2004 - 4:34pm

Hi April and welcome to the board! Its always great to see a new face around here :) Congrats on your recent marriage, I hope you're still enjoying married life. As for families, that is the age-old question. I think CAT gave you the best advice, to just be yourselves. Your families will either accept it or not, but there's really no way to convince them to accept you if they aren't willing. My family is competely unaccepting, both of me and my relationship with my partner and her daughter. There is nothing I can do about that. My partner's family, on the other hand, have been amazingly accepting and considerate. Its not perfect, but its definitely to the best that they can. And that is good enough for us. For the most part though, my partner and I both realize that we, and her daughter, and our future child(ren) are going to be our family. And that's good enough for us.


~C