Laurie~**Smiles**

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Sat, 11-13-2004 - 1:50am
You seemed to be posting here and there where I was and I did do as you suggested and go back after at im...

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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 5:32pm
One other thing I wanted to add, because I feel as if I'm not properly explaining myself. But, let's take Lucy, my all time biggest crush, for example. She wasn't what some people might term as "hot." But, to me, she was the most beautiful woman in the world. When I saw her, everything left my mind. It was like the world around me was put on hold while I starred at her. The feeling...It felt so magical! So Incredible! But, if she had been wearing a man's shirt and watch, she would still look heterosexual. There's something about the "heterosexual" looking woman. It drives me. It revs my engine. It pumps me up. It makes me feel crazy and wild. If that small part is missing, I have a difficult time developing an attraction.

rj :)

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 7:01pm
hahahaha, You crack me up the way you tell a story. But see you got the first meeting thing out of the way. Now just tell her it is not going to work out for you. Unless of course you want to leave that door open, Not! lol.

They won't all be a match but you might get to meet some good people. Plust it seems to be the only way where you live to meet other lesbians

Was she really that bad. More detail please. Her opinion of prissy too.

More info please. Was she cute at all. Did she have any good qualities. Maybe you are just picky and that is very good. You don't have to settle.

I wouldn't give up though just keep plugging along.

Sorry it did not work out this time. Maybe next time???

Hugs, and I am proud of you for meeting her for at least 5 mins. lol.

What excuse did you give her?? lol I want to know more.

Laurie
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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 8:32pm
Inquiring minds want to

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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 9:02pm
More info given... lol

Well, she actually let me off the hook. She said, "I don't want to keep you if you plan on going to the Y." See, she was late. I was actually leaving when we ran into one another. So, that allowed me to have a way out.

She's okay. She isn't my type. And, there is nothing wrong with her looks. She simply doesn't do it for me. I try not to focus too much on someone's looks. I feel that the total package is what attracts. She simply doesn't attract me.

She is a bit silly as well. Our humor does not match. She seems to laugh at everything. I don't know if this is nervous behavior or what. But, it is annoying to me. Also, her laugh is very "snorty." It is like she is trying to combine a snort and grunt together when she laughs. Honestly, I tried to be very serious during our meeting because it was public. And, I was afraid she was going to draw an attraction with her grunt/snort laugh. I was afraid to talk because she found everything to be so funny. I didn't want to promote my existence in a small city with a full fledge grunt fest!

So, we are standing there. I'm silent...fearing a near grunt if I murmur one word. She says, "Well, I don't want to hold you up." Honey, that was my cue!

She emailed tonight saying that maybe she should join the Y. I need to tactfully end this. HELP!

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 9:31pm
**Smiles** back!

Well, at one moment, she tells me something about her job. I could see the gleam in her eyes...the crackle line of a smile developing upon her face...I could feel a grunt/snort about to explode. It was like in slow motion when you see the football player going up for the ball. The severe look on my face of, "Please don't grunt this time." But, nothing could stop the relentless grunts and snorts. No, nothing. There wasn't anything said that was really funny, but to her, all was funny. I could have pretended to slip with a Swiss Army knife and said, "Oh, I cut off my arm!" And, surely she would have comforted me with a couple of grunts and snorts.

--an excerpt from Tells, Tells of Internet Dating

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Sun, 11-14-2004 - 11:17pm
Oh my. Grunting and snorting... not good in any situation.

Just tell her you are not comfortable and do not want to take it any farther.

You could say meeting her made you realize you are not over your ex yet or something like that.

Hugs,

Laurie
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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 7:02am

She emailed tonight saying that maybe she should join the Y. I need to tactfully end this. HELP!

rj


Your best bet is to do it quickly then hun.

*hugs ~ Caly

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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 7:20am
I told her this morning in email that I wanted to be just friends. She knows some people that I know at the gay church, so I'm trying to get out of this with good feelings on both sides.

Thanks,

rj

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 7:26am
You know that I typed to you that I thought I had lost my libdo. Well, last night I had the most steamy dreams. OMG! It was this mystery lady with dark hair. She was wearing a nightie. And, for TOS reasons, that's all I can type. Let's just say, I had a REAL good time.

rj :)

rj

Franco Harris of the Pittsburgh Steelers in 197

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Mon, 11-15-2004 - 9:39am
WOW! So you have no worries then rj!

It is just going to take meeting more people to find the right one.

I still am coming down there someday and taking you out of that hole. LOL!

You can always fly back for visits. I will sponsor you like in the navy. Find an IT job that will pay for your continuing education and bennefits.

And you can even rent a decent home with a yard for $500.-$575. per month. Have Sheila write your resume' since she writes them for people who always get hired. Then you can ride in style in your new Honda Element and be a chick magnet.

Your whole life will change in to more of a happy one. You can be in the city in a few minuets and live in the suburbs or more rural areas.

And you will meet bazillions of friendly lesbians and have many GLBT restaraunts and bars to choose from if you want to. Nice ones, not holes.

You can be you and not worry about your job etc.

So the future can be as bright as you let it be for yourself.

It's all up to you rj.

Hugs,

Laurie
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