just thinking out loud....

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just thinking out loud....
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 6:01pm
I well wasn't in love with my ex like I should have been...but I do care and I do miss her....I haven't spoke to her since monday.Not sure when she is coming to get her final things from my aunts...but I have wrote a few letters to her,and put all the pics in an envelope for her to leave with my aunt.I don't plan on being there saturday in case she does come(thinking that will be the day she does)...I may even leave town that day,don't want her stopping by here or anything.I am very worried she is going to bring someone ,maybe someone she is dating to help her just to hurt me.Whether I am there or not I will find out about it...I think she has someone else ...I think that is one reason she left....I am not sure I could handle knowing that right now.I miss her friendship and know this fear about her dating someone is mainly an ego thing.Any advice???Thanks alot ,Jo
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 8:18pm


Well first off {{{{{Jo}}}}}. Now, you did the right thing by not allowing your ex to come by your place of residence to pick up her stuff. Second, it's understandable that you still love and care for her, but don't allow that to cause you to stop taking care of yourself. Third, I've always been told what my ex does is none of my business, and I should get some of my own.

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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 8:31pm

((((Jo)))) Good idea to make yourself scarce during the time she comes to pick up her stuff..
The reason you feel the way you do about thoughts of her with another are because of course you cared for her and you did not want the friendship part to end .. But she was hard on you and even being a friend she would have been hard on you..... But you are bothered by the thoughts of her because you are thinking she was better perhaps then no one?.. But thats not true Jo.... You would be just settleing if you accept that thought.. Or even if you would have stayed in that relationship.. You figure pain is better than no sharing of some kind.. (Been there... Done That!.) Do not let yourself fall to that..
You deserve to be happy and compatible with someone.. You and her were NOT!..
In time you will get past this and in time you will find


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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 10:22pm

{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}


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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:01pm

((((((((((((Jo)))))))))))))


Great thoughts from Gigi and CAT. I think you are doing the right thing in making sure that you aren't around when she is. There is no reason for you to see her and I think it would only lead to pain if you did. Its always hard when a former partner starts seeing someone else, whether we want to be with them ourselves or not. There really isn't any easy way (that I've found) to get over that. The important thing is just to remember why you broke up with her and how bad she is for you. (((((((((((Big hugs)))))))))))


~C

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:29pm
Thanks to everyone and hugs((())))I know there is someone out there for me again...someone like chasity.......Thanks again,Jo
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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 10:16am

Yes, I agree. And I have every faith that you will find your someone someday soon.


(((((((((((hugs again)))))))))))


~C