problems for the first time

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Registered: 01-21-2004
problems for the first time
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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 12:56pm
this is only my second post on this board. however im having troubles and it is not with my wife. yesterday someone tried to tell my wife she should leave me because she wont get any where in this world with me. i got so upset that i told her to stay away from me and my wife. then she looked me in the eye and told me shes not your wife and never will be. and since we live in utah she is only partially right it will never be a legal union of us as long as we live here. however, when i told her to stay away from us she kicked us out we were living with her, her son, and boyfriend. today we were supposed to put 300.00 dollars toward our duplex that we were supposed to get but since we had no place to go last night we had to buy food and a motel room. we no longer have the 300.00 dollars that we needed. my wife keeps telling me it wasnt my fault and not to feel bad and that she still loves me and also not to worry about her leaving me but i just feel so bad about it. well i gotta run. please send prayers and good thoughts my way if you can.
thanks to all for listening.
april
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Registered: 02-15-2004
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 1:22pm

{{{{April}}}}.

Well, if your wife says not to worry about it then, don't worry about it! lol! It "sounds" like you have a wonderful woman on your hands, and the other person, she just jealous.

Just hold on, and all will be ok.

Prayers, good wishes and angels of love and peace are coming your way.

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 1:23pm
So what that she may not ever be your legal wife! There are so many straight people that live as a couple and not get married and no one looks down on them! I think you and her will have a good a life as any if you keep it up. Our relationships take as much work as any if not a little more work but it can be done! I have been with my partner, Brandi for 5 years. We did have a Holy Union ceremony and no, it isn't legal but we are good with that. At least we know we love each other. The people that know us know it too and screw anyone who thinks differently! I am sorry you had to spend your money, maybe you could go to a temp agency for the day to get the money back. That is what I would do. There will always be those people that have to put in their 2 cents but keep ignoring them and all will be ok. I know it may be where I am but I see it every day, especially having a 5y/o and a new baby. I hear it all! I think people are beginning to accept things a little better though. It is a lot more open than It was even 5 years ago here! Good luck, Mandi
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Registered: 10-08-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 3:21pm

(((((((((April))))))))) I'm sorry for the rough time you are going through. Even though it may be hard right now, it sound slike it is the best thing for you to be out of that house. It sounds like a very negative and hateful place and not the type of environment that would help build and nurture your relationship with your wife. And she is your wife... maybe not legally, but in every way that is important. I hope you can get some more money built back up so that you can move into your new place. If your wife is supporting you (emotionally), then accept that and try not to beat yourself up too much over what happened.


Sending lots of prayers and positive thoughts your way.


Hugs!


~C

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 7:31pm
April.. I back what the others said..I lived 14 years with someone and was never legally married to him.. But it was accepted so easily Haaa.. I do not really believe it matters except of course in the ways of laws helping us for having the same rights but other than that you are married if you both believe it in your hearts and want to be with each other.. Do not let this person destroy your belief in you and your Partner..
You are better off getting away from that place.. Yes it will be a bit harder now, but you have your sweetheart by your side and you both will bring it to where it needs to be..
Come back and do keep in touch.. Will be thinking of ya..
((((Hugs)))))"CAT"

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 11-18-2004 - 10:09pm

(((((((April)))))))


I'm so sorry you have found yourself in this situation.

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 12:52am
Best to be out of that hateful situation. Do you both have a job?
Maybe you could find a place to stay until you get the rest of the money.
They have those temp places where you can work for a day. maybe you could do that on your off day until you make up the money.
I hope things work out soon for both of you.
Be strong you will do okay.
Hugs,
Laurie
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