Need some pointers...

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Need some pointers...
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 2:53pm
Hello, I just wanted to know if any one had any advice or ideas for me. I have been bi sexual all of my life. I am 24 years old and I was in a committed realtionship with another woman from age 17 to 21 (off and on).
I am very femanine and its not easy for me to pick up other women. I dont even know how to do it. I have made hints to other women that I have been attracted to in the past like "what would you do if a woman tried to kiss you?" just so I could get a hint if they were gay or bi. I usually get the "yucks" or "I'd slap her" as responces. So If you could, give me some pointers on what to say. I don't want to sound childish, but my ideal mate could pass me by and I would miss her because I dont know how to pick up women. Thank you.
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 5:35pm

Hello anwar, and welcome to Lesbian Life. Hmmmmm, what would I do if a woman tried to kiss me? weg, welll, I would prepare myself for the most exciting, and erotic feeling that's going to happen, and then I would just relax and let it happen. Hope that helps!

 


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Registered: 12-05-2004
Mon, 12-06-2004 - 9:50pm
Hi Hon,
Well it sure does depend on the place and the time. If you are out at mall, it probably is not the right place. Do you have friends who are bi? Maybe they can show you some places that are safe and and both straight and lez hang out. I personally like someone who says how they feel. In this pc world it is refreshing. All they can say is no thanks and you move on. Don't put your whole heart out there, it will get stepped on.
take of yourself.
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 8:57am

Hi Tamera and Welcome to LL!

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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 6:25pm
I'm in your boat with you(except for the Very Femme Part) and neither of us have a paddle,lol......sad but true....alot maybe depends on where you live...doubt you'll meet your soul mate but I go to gay clubs...at least they are an outlet and maybe you'll meet someone who has a friend that is right for you....or a cousin or what have you???I actually met my two serious girlfriends in the local strip club(one was a customer and one was the bartender*but she kept her clothes on*lol).....I have no clue...hope you get better advice then this,lol..have a great one,Jo
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 9:10pm

I love reading your posts Jo. But, I could never be as carefree as you are. Not that you are really carefree, but compared to me, you are. I've never been in a bar. I don't think I could ever go to a strip club. I'm not much into the nudity. I want to know someone and develop an emotional connection. Then, I become interest in the physical aspect. But, it is first getting to know the person and making a connection before I go to the physical part. I've heard strip clubs have great food. LOL I don't know if that is true though.


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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 10:22pm
hey rj.....well ummm actually as stupid as it sounds it will come out wrong but I don't go to strip clubs for nudity.....I mean I am still a virgin,that goes for men and women...
The one strip club I started going to 7 years ago was because I had a crush on a stripper.I rode by every night,knowing I would never go in that place alone...when I finally got people to go in there with me my crush had quit her job....Then after I had been going in there,I met an ex stripper but didn't realize she had been a stripper.It was just a beautiful girl I wanted to get to know,so I did .....The strip club is my "Cheers" if you will....yes everyone does know my name....they all hug me when I go in,....I only tip strippers I know.I look them in the eye,not eye there body parts....I know who are the single mothers and who are the abused wives....they talk to me about problems they don't tell customers....they have car trouble...I give them a ride home....I have taken one's kids to her mothers before.....I am not a physical person until I get to know someone and well even not after that if I am not "in love" with them as my track record shows,lol...(the virgin part)....I hate going to gay clubs alone yet I have found a bad night out is better then a good night at home alone at times....and the strip club I am at home at only has slim jim's,lol....some dancers feel women are a safe haven and they can be themselves around ,others just want your cash of course....I have been going there for 7 years and well in this town ...you choose between that strip club,a straight dance club for 21 year olds who all want to fight or a dozen redneck bars....lol...have a good one rj....Jo
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Wed, 12-08-2004 - 12:08am
Hey Jo.. I get the gest of what your saying.. When I was alone I went to bars, straight and gay and would sit and listen to music and people watch.. Probably not the safest thing for me to have been doing being alone,but at times in my life, I have been to brave and impulsive..
Any how I love to people watch.. I love Music.. Loved to watch people sing karokee,

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