Can I join in?

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Registered: 12-07-2004
Can I join in?
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Tue, 12-07-2004 - 10:36pm

Hi ladies. I could really use some lesbian support right now!!! Let me give you a little background on me 1st before I get to the problem. I'm 33, divorced, mom to 2 young girls, work full time & go to school full time. I have been dating my gf (she's 19)for a little over a year. We've lived together on & off but currently off-she is living in Philly & I'm in the suburbs. I can honestly say I love her with all my heart but I don't like how she treats me or the stuff she does. She is a total slut (men & women)sorry to be harsh but I wasn't sure how to put it. She has the nerve to tell me about her adventures too. She always wants to "borrow" money. My friends all say she is just using me but when we are together I know she really loves me. I am reluctant to move in with her again because of the way she can be. Any advice?

Thanks!
Missy

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Registered: 03-24-2003
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 10:54pm
Hi Missy, and welcome! My advice? Don't get too emotionally invested in her. Given her openness about her other relationships, she just doesn't feel the same way, and her needs are different. She may well love you, but love has so many degrees and forms I just dn't think you are in the same place emotionally. Be very careful...
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Registered: 02-15-2004
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 11:27pm

Hello, missy, Welcome to Lesbian Life. My name is Gigi. In my opinion, and that's all it is...

If you don't like what she does, how she treats you, and takes(not borrows)your hard earned money, then I strongly suggest that you leave her alone, and find someone that will treat you with the love and respect that you deserve.

Just my opinion. Please stay and join this wonderful community of women, we would like to get to know you.

Friendly hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 12-07-2004 - 11:34pm
Hey.. Welcome Missy.. Course you can join in.. Sorry about your situation.. Sounds like your g/f is not serious about you.. As someone else said in post before,there are different kinds of love and degrees of it,

 C  >^. A .

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 1:43am
Hi missy,
You can join in anytime.
It sounds like she is sowing some wild oats. If you can maintain a casual sharing relationship with her then go for it.
It you want to find someone exclusive then I would move on.
Life is to short to settle for less than what you want.
I chose not to settle on a bad relationship years ago. I am glad I moved on.
I have met my true love, we have been together for 8 1/2 years now and we have been very happy. We enjoy each others company and we do not make each other cry.
I hope you choose to move on so that you can find the right one for you.
Take care,
Hugs and welcome,
Laurie

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Registered: 03-21-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 6:56am

Hi and Welcome!


I agree with everyone else on this one hun,

*hugs ~ Caly

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 9:33am

Hi Missy and Welcome to Lesbian Life.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 10:41am
Everyone else gave you such good advice I just want to say hi... Hi! My name is Mandi, my partner, Brandi and I have been together 5 yrs and we have a 5 y/o son- Jeremy and an almost 5 month old daughter- Jasmine. Welcome and hope you find what you are looking for and hope you stick around. I am fairly new here and completely addicted to these women here! they are great and give wonderful advice! Mandi Jewell
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 12-08-2004 - 5:51pm

welcome Missy!!!!!
Can I be honest???

You go to school full time ?work fulltime ?how?that is my question.I took a full load at school and worked part time and couldn't handle it....
ok anyway...you have two daughters...they are important...I think your gf is kind of wrong for "borrowing" instead of helping when you have two children to raise ,ya know?
She loves you when shes there?Do you have adventures?If not maybe you should make a few up...see how she feels....I am sorry ...I don't want to be TO Honest but I am so tired of people mistreating the people they "love" or say they do.
It makes me angry....I personally think your gut is right..if you don't think you should move back in with her then you shouldn't and well since I been honest up until now I would also tell her to grow up,get a job and come back when she firgures out she really does love you,but she has to show up on your doorstep with a dozen long stem roses and reservations for the nicest,pricest resturant in town and she is buying....welcome....stick around and there is someone out there who is going to treat you like the lady you are...have a good one,Jo