Up-Date On Son's Birthday.. A bit Long..
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| Sat, 12-11-2004 - 11:04pm |
Hi all my dear friends.. All you who posted to my last post and those that didn't get to it, but I know you care.... This will seem sad for the most part but does come to a fairly good ending..
Last night or early in the morn hours at 12.45 A.M.. I thought about how my Son was born on that wonderful day..
I woke this morn and had a very bad morn.. Things just were not going any thing like I wanted.. I was very down most of day.. I had tried to call several times last night to talk to son and this Morn before work but kept getting busy signal..
Well Finally today ex was at work and Youngest son answered phone..
We talked..It had been a long day for him.. His big brother was sleeping the day away and Dad was at work and he was there doing nothing all day..
I talked with him and told him I loved him and perhaps some weekend he might come sleep over,spend the weekend.. He said yeah sounds okay..(But if he will remains to be seen) I told Him I cared about how he was feeling.. I told him his Dad had said he was going to bring cake and ice cream and have his friends over.. He said yeah more likely Dad will get the cake and ice cream and have his own friends over and the friend he wanted over would need a

Well, Cat, I'm glad that things went well for your son, and I'm glad that you're feeling a little better, I was interested in what happened today for your son. I'm sorry that one of his friends couldn't make it. But I'm glad that all went well.
Comforting hugs.
Hugs,
Sebastian
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{{{{{cAT}}}}} ~sigh. Yeah, I know those boys will be back in your life permanently one day, and you can throw them the biggest, gawdiest b-day bash that would make all mothers proud.
The first part of your post really touched base though. May 12, 1997....I was on complete bedrest, laying on the waterbed watching the Rosie O'Donell show. She had Martin Short on that day. Those two persolnaities (Rosie and Martin) cliked so well, and they were so slap-stick funny, which is my favorite kind of comedy. I started laughing so hard at thier exchanges that I had to turn the TV off b/c I felt contractions getting worse, and I still had 6 weeks to go. Well, it was too late. Rosie and Martin had officially put me into labor, and ex was not home. I called Dad's house and Lauren, who was 13 at the time, was the only one there. Of course I caused her to go into a panick attack when she realized that I was in labor and all alone. I dragged myself outside and miracle of all miracles I saw ex's dad was about 3 acres away feeding the horses, so I crawled into the truck and drove to him (and now I know why they say not to drive when you're in labor). So he took me to the hospital,
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Thanks for sharing that! I'm sorry that your youngest son wasn't able to have his friend over.
rj
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(((((((Cat)))))))
Your youngest will always remember that on the birthday that he was alone, his mom let him know that she cared and wished better for him.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
(((((((Beth)))))))
And what a beautiful memory that is.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
(((((((rj)))))))
That's so sad.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
The video scrapbook I am working on (now editing) Is from a mother who had to give up her son's to their father when they were 2yrs and 5yrs old.
The father told her if she tried to get custody he would kill them all.
When they became adults they came to their mother. They still see their father too but have a bit of a grudge against him for keeping them from their mother.
They love their mom and she tells them all the time she loves them.
The scrapbook video is all about the time she grew up, met their dad and lost custiody of them to their father.
She tell them the thing she regrets most in her life is not being able to raise her son's.
I keep thinking of you and Beth and everyone else who has lost their children like this to the other parent. When making these videos I get to know people like nobody else has known them. It breaks my heart to hear her talking about them as babies and then going through the hard times when they were with their dad.
Her two son's spend Christmas with her and their families. It is like they are making up for lost time.
They still visit their dad but...they seem to spend alot of their time with mom. So, Maybe you can make a video scrapbook someday for your son's to pass down to their families. I didn't know if I should tell you about this video scrapbook or not.
It is a heartbreaker at times but it has a happy ending even though they will never be able to go back and fix the time lost.
She tells them on the video that she will regret this until the day she goes to her grave.
I swear, doing photography and videography, I hear some of the sadest stories.
I once did a family reunion of a family the first year after losing their mother and finding out this would prbably be the last reunion their father would be with them due to cancer.
So many sad stories out there. I think it is more the norm than not.
I hope that you can make the best of this situation. Be strong for them and always let them know how much you love them. I know it is not the same as raising them, but one day they will truly understand. And they know and will know that you love them very much.
Hugs,
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I am so glad you got to speak to him several times without ex around to put a dark cloud over everything.
Kim
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ms kitty, I so wish to give you a great big *hug* about now...
you are a very, very special human being (who also has an equally special friend!)