Very confused - please help!
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Very confused - please help!
| Thu, 12-16-2004 - 10:36pm |
I can't believe that I'm actually posting this somewhere. I'm pretty embarrassed, even though I don't really know why. I date a lot of guys, but I'm never satisfied with them and I don't really even like them. I feel like I am just dating them for something to do. They get me a lot of gifts, and that makes me happy for a little while. Sometimes I really think that I'd rather have a relationship with a girl than a guy. I'm so confused, though. I have no idea what I am, and I feel like I'm too old to be confused about this stuff. (I'm 20, and I'm a college student.) I guess that I just want to make some friends who might understand. I can't live like this anymore.

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Hello, hiconfusion, My name is Gigi. Welcome to Lesbian Life. We are a community of caring and supportive women, we care about one another as well as all that come to this wonderful community.
My experience is this: The both of you need time to yourselves to find out how you feel about each other. But most of all, it is suggested that you find out how you feel about yourselves and take a look at what your sexuality is, and if you really want to be with her. Sometimes it's good for a new couple to be apart from one another, so that each one can search their feelings. I can agree on the kisssing and wanting to be with your sweetie, all of the time, but it's not healthy, you both must have some alone time.
Trust is a hard thing to earn, so you must have faith and trust in her, as well as her having faith and trust in you. As the saying goes: if you love something let it go, and if it comes back to you, then it was meant to be. All she wants to do it to be able to stand on her own two feet, and to have some independence. Of course, you're not going to know how to be in a relationship, you have to know how to be in a relationship with yourself. If she's sincere in wanting to stop drinking, might I suggest that she go to AA. Remember she has to want to go to AA, you can't force her, or make her. I have learned that love takes time, and if it will happen it will happen. The only way to let her know how you feel is if you sit down and speak honestly with her. Maybe she's having the same problem, too. You never know, if you don't speak up. Yes, it is your life, and it is real. I have been a lesbian all of my life, and before I came out I had to do some soul searching myself, but when I realized, that this is what and who I am, I am very happy and secure in my sexuality. As with any other sexuality, there is a lot of confusion, and doubt, but for me, there is always a sense of self-identity and self acceptance, and believe me, all of this self-knowledge didn't come over night, it took me a long time to be who and what I am. And I love me, hopefully, you will come to find out that you are who you are and that it is beautiful.
So, please have some chocolate, sit on this nice comfortable cyber couch, and have your favorite beverage. I, as well as the other ladies, welcome you to this most awesome community.
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
Hi Pink
I'm kind of a new "oldie" around here.. I used to very active on this board about 2 years ago. You will find this is a wonderful, caring community of women. And you are safe here to pour out your heart - your doubts - your fears - your joys. There a many wise souls in this community. I welcome you and hope you will come by often.. I know I'm planning to come by more often again :-)
Hugs
Pooh Bear
Ok, well I just thought I would help you, but please stay and have some fun with us, we'd like to get to know you!
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
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