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| Sun, 12-19-2004 - 1:26pm |
Hi everyone!
I haven't had any time lately to come and check in, I hope everyone is doing well. Here's a quick up date on me..
I started my new job last week, and lost it this week. I am humiliated because I have never been fired before. Oh I'm sorry, he didn't fire me, he thought it would be best if we "part ways". To me, that's fired. His reason was that he said they think I settled for that job and that it "really was beneath me" and that it is in my best interest because I would not seek better employment as long as I was working there. He said I was overqualified. Whatever. Here's why I really think I got fired: One day one of the managers was in my office asking me alot of personal questions and after talking about my divorce he asked if what happened made me "go to the other side". I answered an honest yes. Then we talked about me being a lesbian. The next day the office manager (a woman) acted funny around me, and made a comment about some "lesbo" that used to work there. The next day I was let go. So, I learned an important lesson - keep my mouth shut about my personal life. On the plus side, it was a non-profit organization and there really wasn't any bright future financially for me there. I just would have liked to have found something else before I was forced to leave. They asked me for a letter of resignation for my file - I am not writing one. The way I see it, he asked me not to come back, I didn't quit.
So, I am job hunting again - not a good thing at Christmas time. Maybe I will wait to look really hard until the first of the year.
The house is coming along good, I have finished everything but two small projects. Jen is good, Leanne is good. My fur babies are good. Other than the job thing I can't complain about much.
So -how are YOU?
Big hugs - Sandra

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Thanks for the hug. I needed that.
You are absolutely right, I did give too much information too soon. I learned. The job wasn't that great anyway and another will come along. The search continues.
You are also right that he had another agenda, lots of them did. It was so uncomfortable for me to work in a place that 90% of the men were single. They disgusted me,which is another conversation entirely. Needless to say, they heard a "hot blonde single girl" was coming - imagine their disappointment to find out I am a lesbian. Poor idiots.
Big hugs, Sandra
Sandr
>It's like getting a new car and having to keep it in the garage. *sigh*
That has to be one of the best analogies I have yet heard.
Big Hugs!
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
I like your analogy! I do feel like I have this new car (and man is it awesome!) -- yet I can't show it off to anyone. And that stinks. Here I am, feeling happier than I ever have in my life and I can only share my happiness with a very few select people.
Jules
Jules
You don't just have a new car.
CL-Nursepam2000 aka
Wow Sandra.
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I know how hard job hunting is and how much you were hoping this would work out. It has to be very discouraging to be back at square one. But I do think that your boss probably did you a favor, that doesn't sound like a very healthy environment to be working in.
That said, your personal life is your personal life. And I think most of the time it is best to keep your work life seperate from your private life. As a graduate assistant, I was in a bit of an odd position. I was, and wanted to be, out in the classroom and with my friends. However, my employers were also my professors, and my friends were also my co-workers. It made for a very interesting quandry, one I hope not to have to juggle again. I didn't experience backlash nearly to the degree you did, but it was there, and obvious. It can be frustrating.
Now, as I job hunt, and after I find a job and start work, my private life will remain just that. Private. Especially in this small town.
Good luck as you get back into the looking. I hope you find something soon! And I am glad to hear that Jen and Leanne are doing well.
Big hugs!
~C
Sandr
I am glad you had a good evaluation - don't misplace it! Who did you tell them Courtney was, a friend?
Hugs, Sandra
Sandr
You're welcome Sandra :)
No luck as of yet. If I'm still at nothing once I return from Christmas in Arkansas, I'm going to apply at a sandwich shop down the road. Apparently they are pretty much hiring anyone who comes through the door, so I should be fine to get a job there. Not my goal job, but it'll pay the bills!
~C
Hey Sandra, I know I'm late in replying to your post, but I've had it happen to me also.
Different times I've posted about my outward appearence and folks usually figure out what I am without me even saying a word. Anyway, I look at it this way when on the job,or in my church, if I'm asked about my personal life, I usually turn the conversation in this direction:
Me: hello
Them: Hi, what did you do this weekend?
Me: Nothing much, just hung out.
Them: awww, c'mon, you can tell me
Me: ~sigh~ ok, well, I had a hot date, and we made love alllllllllll weekend long, and we didn't stop until this morning, and that's why I'm late for church/work, any more questions?
Them: Uh.........ahem....... Uh...... no that's ok.
Me: OK, have a nice day!
So, usually what happens with me is, I try to be discreet, but sometimes you have to be rude to get people out of your personal business, not to mention "well-wishers" out of your hair.
Don't worry sweetie, you'll learn
Hugs!
Hugs,
Sebastian
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