I need to talk

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Registered: 07-24-2003
I need to talk
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Wed, 01-05-2005 - 11:42am
I love Brandi with all my heart but I feel like we are more like best friends that anything else. She told me last night that we only had sex 1 time all last year. It is true. I was pregnant a lot of the year and was high risk and then you have the post partum time and all that but I dont know why we arent now. Even before I got pregnant we didnt have sex. It was either me not wanting to or her. We cant seem to get it together. When we first got together she didnt want to cause she wanted to cause she thought it would ruin what we were trying to start. Then she said she didnt want to so I just stopped asking. I have always been pretty much a "self" nympho. I dont sleep around and never really have but i have been pleasuring myself since I was 6 (when I figured out what the hand held shower massage was really for!) and still do very often. Well now it is to the point where it is weird to even talk about sex with her. It seems like we are new again or something. Well, that and we have 2 kids. Even when they are at Grammy's house we find excuses. I hate it. I love her and I know she loves me so why is it so weird? I want to have sex with her so bad but I cant initiate anymore. I was shot down too many times I guess. I need help getting out of this. How can I start a conversation about it without it being strange? Thanks for listening and sorry i havent been around much. It is so hard to find computer time when Jeremy wanted to be on it all day but he is back in school today.... YAY!
Thanks again, Mandi

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Registered: 03-22-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 7:27am

Hi Eileen and Welcome .


Everyone has their own level of comfort in what they share here and thats ok.

*hugs             

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Registered: 07-24-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Sun, 01-09-2005 - 10:31am

Yeah, I know what you mean about it possibly being hormones or even worse but she wont even go to a female Doc. I have been trying to get her to one since I met her but she refuses. I thought I had her talked into it until her mom said something too and she got mad at me thinking I was talking to her mom about our personal things. I want her to go mainly b/c her mom had endmetriosis (sp) and I dont want something to happen to her like that. She is a stubborn one that is for sure!

Thanks, Mandi

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 10:28am
Hey gigi, you lucky nympo you, lol.
How is that relationship going anyway?
Take care,
Hugs,
Laurie

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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 10:33am
Hi lafaye,
I know what you mean, there are so many things to think about in this thread alone.
Thanks for the kind words. Things are going very well here. All other areas of my relationship are or seem to us to be perfect.
I really do feel very lucky to have found my partner.
It is the first time I have ever felt like I want to spend the rest of my life with this person.
Hugs, and I hope all goes well for you too.
Laurie

My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 1:16pm


It's going ok, I called Amtrak and got the price for a two way ticket. Now all I have to do is to wait for the weather to calm down somewhat, then I'll be able to travel down and come back to make sure I have an apartment, other than that all is ok.

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 1:27pm
Glad to hear it gigi. Can't wait to hear about your first meeting!
Hugs,
Laurie
Laurie

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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 4:44pm

Ok, not a problem, lol!

Hugs!

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Registered: 06-24-2003
In reply to: mjewell52
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 6:00pm
Okay thanks, I will live vicariously through you. Lol.
Laurie

My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html

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