Jan.11th,2005...................

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Jan.11th,2005...................
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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 12:45am
My uncle passed away on Jan. 11th ,2005....with his wife holding his hand...my mom's sister.April would have made there 45th anniv....can you imagine?The past year she has been going and going and going 24/7 to care for him....He served in the Army??I think,they were high school sweethearts(she has a black and white photo of the prom they went to on her mantle).....Then he retired from the post office,and in his retirement he volunteered for the special olympics,was an umpire for softball,volleyball and football...he loved people and loved life...I waited to late to tell him I loved him,but mom says he knew....I waited to long,should have when I knew he could hear me.
After he got sick and I made the trips to help him to bed,several times a week....he always grabbed my hand,I was his buddy...once when taking him to the ER,the people where trying to get him from the car,he grabbed my arm...they told me let go and let them do it...he had me ,lol...I didn't have him,lol....He always laughed when I was around and I felt great even though we weren't sure what was making him laugh....just seeing him laugh was all that mattered.When I was employee of the month...he tried to read it,(I think he was mimicking my aunt)....I am thinking of putting that in his casket with him,.....They gave me some time off work thank god.....after seeing the shape I am guess they felt that had to ,but they were understanding and that is good.My mom,my aunt,my cousin and her gf/or ex(not sure which )where all with him when he passed.I was sent for a milkshake...maybe that was best....???mom said she was glad I was not there....so I am up washing clothes ...for the funeral and all....trying to get my mind off things when I have had like 3 hours sleep a night for the past four days yet I am talking about this,lol....makes no sense...I know.....everyone have a good night....what I learned thus far???try and do the right thing for yourself......try and show the people you love that you love them....I don't have regrets here,I did show him....but I could have had regrets...for a long time we weren't close to each other...we made peace a few years before his surgury......Jo

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 12:54am

{{{{{{{{{{Jo}}}}}}}}}}. Hold on, he's in a much nicer place. He's happy and healthy. Like your mom said, he knows that you love him.

Just keep coming back here when you are able to.

 


Hugs,


Sebastian


 


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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 12:56am

So sorry for your loss.


{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}


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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 1:10am

Jo I'm sorry.


It sounds like your Uncle had a wonderful life and many people that loved and cared for him. He was a lucky man, and a success story in life. He is in a better place, no more suffering. I am glad you were able to spend time with him.


(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((huge hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 7:22am
((((((((((((((JO))))))))))))))))

*hugs

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 8:05am

Oh Jo, I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you had a good relationship, though, and I feel certain your uncle knew you loved him. You will always have those memories and he will always be in your heart. Take care...sending thoughts and prayers your way.

Jules

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 10:17am

Sorry to hear about your loss Jo. :(

halo

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 11:27am
(((((((((((((Jo))))))))))))) Still whispering to angels for comfort for you,your Aunt and all concerned..
You made him laugh, you were there, you did things for him, you touched him,in a way that was special to him, (He knew you loved him) You can be sure..
((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))"CAT"
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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 12:55pm
Hugs Jo.

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 1:18pm
{{{{{jo}}}}}

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Thu, 01-13-2005 - 3:20pm

(((((( Jo ))))))


Hang in there hunny, althought this is a very sad time please remember that he is in a much better and happier place. I am so glad you made peace.


Many tight hugs,

Robin

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