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| Fri, 01-14-2005 - 2:41am |
I have a crush on this girl at work...however i don't know her sexual preference. When she talks to me I start to smile and blush alot, which is my way of showing her that I like her. I think she's aware of my sexuality since I wear a rainbow necklace to work. On occassions, she has poked my arm, asked me for a hug (although i'm not the only one she asked) and placed a candycane on my vest pocket...which I thought was quite seductive. I've seen her check me out when I walk by her and we've exchanged glances as well. Judging from what I wrote do you think she likes me? I want to tell her that I like her but I don't know how to go about it. I need advice.

Hi and good Morning.
*hugs
I like the idea of having lunch together... bring up the subject sometime... etc. People who aren't gay don't know what the rainbow means- at least none of my friends do. Keep us posted!!!
mandi
At my last job (I worked at the same place as my partner) there was a woman who hugged everyone. But with me, she always hugged me and kissed me right on the lips. I just took it as she wanted to show me that she was ok with my lifestyle and because she did this in public she (I though) did not mean anything by it as far as wanting me as more than a friend.
She was/is married. She started to have parties at her house for all of us. One night while I was in the back room of the house getting ready to leave she told everyone to go out and we (she and I) would be right there.
She hugged me kissed me like a girlfriend and told me she loved me.
Of course my girlfriend was outside and so was her husband. I told her that this can't happen again.
We remained friends but (I told my girlfriend what had happened.) my girlfriend requested that I not see her alone. So I did not.
So, I think you need to get her away from the work place, like lunch or dinner and just let her talk and see what she does or says. That way she won't be going around work telling everyone that you hit on her.
I think she would feel more at ease outside of work. But if I were you I would maybe bring up a subject like maybe gay marriage or something that is a topic not to far off the wall. See how she feels about things first.
And don't rush it. It might be she does like you and is giving you some little hints.
Good luck and keep us posted!
Hugs,
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Hey Laurie,
Wow! What a story!
I can still remember my first PFLAG meeting. I entered the room and saw this very gorgeous woman. She was alone. She wore hiking shorts, Columbia type top, and sandals. I was instantly smitten with her. Then, before the meeting began, in walked her husband. They were a couple who had a gay son. Well, as the meeting concluded, she walked over to me and gave me her business card. She asked me to call her. As lonesome as I was for a woman, I didn't care that she was married. I figured I had better take whatever I could. Beggars can't be choosers sort of attitude. Of course, I would have preferred a single woman who was gay.
Anyway, I called her. She mentioned us having lunch. I thought for certain this woman was interested in me. We exchanged email. After some time had passed, I revealed my feelings for her.
She was taken back! Big time! She never realized that I was feeling those feelings. She thought of me as a kid. She said, "You are near my son's age. I'm not able to spend as much time with him lately and wanted to get to know you."
I was so embarrassed! It took me a while not to feel awkward around her. I eventually stopped going to PFLAG because it was so unbearable to be around her. Now if I see her public, it doesn't bother me to speak to her.
I once worked with a lady that I was "out" to. She was someone who hugged alot too. Once she and I were in the warehouse alone, and she pulled up her shirt and bra to show me her breasts. I asked her why she was doing this and that someone could walk up any moment! LOL She said, "I thought you would like it." She would often ask me why I wanted to be gay. I would type what else she would say, but TOS might not like me afterwards.
rj :)
rj
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