Don't ask, Don't tell policy

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Don't ask, Don't tell policy
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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 12:11am

I thought this may be of interest to some of our veterans.....


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Sandr

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 12:20am
Aghhhhhhh I am going to bite

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 1:34am
They would be totaly shocked if they new the true number of gays and lesbians that do serve.
We found way to survive it. But we did have to live two lives pretty much. Most of our friends new. It took more than rumors to kick someone out.
You just could not admit it if they questioned you about your sexuality.
I was only investigated twice and both times I did not admit it and they finally left me alone. I served 10 years honorably.
I'd be interested to hear Halo's take on this.
It is a shame that they think we cannot serve our country because we are lesbians or gay.
Stupid people that is all it is. Stupid and hateful people.
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Laurie

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 2:03am

I agree, and wonder why straight taxpayers ever supported this anyway. You know, people may have strong anti-gay feelings, but are even more protective of their money. When their stupid policy is costing billions, I would think they would back off.


I was married to a marine and lived on base in NC. I was approached several times for interviews about lesbians in the military in the mall one day - I guess their gaydar went off when they saw me. Once they found out I wasn't active duty - just a marines wife, they didn't want to talk to me anymore.


I always wondered how gay people hid their personal life, I guess they just lived off base? I lived in base housing, there is no way anyone could "hide" there. We were all so close.


Anyway, the policy needs to change.

Sandr

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Registered: 07-10-2004
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 10:00am

According to the Servicemembers Legal Defense Network, more than 9,000 service members have been discharged since 1993 under the “Don't Ask, Don't Tell” policy at a cost of more than a quarter billion dollars to U.S. taxpayers.


Well, this policy ranks up there with the "Gay Bomb" as another waste of taxpayers money.

 

 

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 10:12am
Yes most of us lived off base. Some did have to live in the barracks though.
I agree that this policy must stop. I guess it is pick on gays season. There seem to always be some type of people who are the picked on ones.
I think it is us for now because we are starting to stand up for ourselves. I am glad to see that we are not going to stay silent so everyone can pretend that we do not exist.
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Laurie

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:53am

Although I wholeheartedly agree that all people should be able to choose whatever vocation they desire despite their sexual identitiy (including military service,) I have to admit that with a 21 year old brother who could possibly be drafted if (God forbid) if that comes about I kind of like knowing that he has an out . . .


I already told him if a draft happens, just tell them you're gay and you won't have to go.

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 10:35pm

I lived off base, so it was never an issue to me.

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:20pm
Of course We

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:36pm
I agree with you on that scarletter.. I have a son close to 18 and another not far behind.. If I knew they were going to be drafted.. I would also tell them to talk about their being gay.. The aren't as far as I know .. But if they were or weren't I would say tell them you are.. I do not want my son's to die either for a war I don't believe in..I hope they keep the don't ask don't tell policy..Sickening.. To think there are people that are in there putting their lives on the line for people that don't have enough respect for them to allow them the freedom of speech to say who and what they are.. If I were a gay person in that position..

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Tue, 01-18-2005 - 11:51pm
Awwwww I still like you.
I had virtually no problems either except the two times that I was under investigation. It was while stationed in Florida and they decided to investigate all the softball teams lol go figure.
Nothing ever came of it and I served 9 more years without incident.
I agree with what you said. No one would want to have to work as a team without cohesion.
At this time we would be the weak link by default.
If the military made it ok the people would still feel how they feel about it no matter what.
Hugs, and which branch were you in. I was Navy, Halo was Army.
Laurie

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