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A Question For Laurie...
| Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:17pm |
Hi Laurie,
I had a question for you. I think I'm just needing some hopeful news lol! My GF told me a few days ago, after we had a bit of a heated argument, that her libido was back. I don't know how long it's been that it's been back; I was so shocked that I didn't ask. And nothing has really changed as far as our intimacy. I was curious as to how things were going for you and yours since you shared your good news a while back.
Hope that's not prying into your business, but I guess I'm trying to keep despair at bay.
Thanks Laurie and I DO hope things are going fabulously for you and your GF now.
Lafaye

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I am doing okay ..Work is draining me physically cause of the wet puddles, salt and sand to clean... Mop Mop Mop. *Tos* heavy mops too! Haaaaaa....
C >^. A .
Good Luck hun (as if you need it *wink)
Thanks for the Good Luck wish, Cat. I really do need it. I'm having trouble with staying awake during class. But I'm trying my best though. I think I may have a sleeping disorder, (oh great, another health issue! lol!). But anyway, I think it has to do with the nice fresh air, that the snow that we got(and will be getting on Saturday)has wakened the little child in me (she loves snow!) and like a patient parent, I know she'll get tired of it. But for now, I have to just let her be happy and enjoy the beautiful scenery while she can.
Hugs!
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
I have ...~S~ tells me... 7 inside me.. They come out and bug her, irratate her, boss her, love her,
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ROFLOL!
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
I may get people upset with me out here(hope not)
Sandr
Hello Cat,
I responded to the copied portion of my post in your post in a previous post regarding having sex while there is company over. It's simply not going to happen and I have my reasons for that. I didn't say she never wants me. I said at the most inopportune times.
"Sounds to me like you and a few other's out here.."
I'm not sure what you mean here Cat.
"Laurie and I am not sure who the other is well.. "
I'm also not sure what that means.
"Sounds like your not matched well with your partners.. May just have to call it quits..
Sad... but seems that things are getting bitter within yourself..."
I guess if I just wanted to give up I would. Since I don't I won't. And no my partner and I are not so grossly mismatched that we make each other utterly miserable. I've never stated that was the case. Yes, I'm bitter, it is only natural. As is anyone in a situation like that. As is Laurie and others like me. We love our partners, but we also want to be loved, in every way.
But, thank you for taking the time to reply.
L.
Edited 1/21/2005 8:26 pm ET ET by lafaye_ak
Edited 1/21/2005 8:58 pm ET ET by lafaye_ak
Sandra,
I truly thank you for your objective point of view about this situation. My GF and I click on levels that are so synergistic at times it is truly eerie. We are having specific problems, not general ones, and these are the ones I am attempting to address.
I don't blame anyone. Not myself, not her, even though there are times when I question my own sexual appeal for her. It is only natural. Objectivity about a situation, especially a personal one only goes so far. I know what it is like not to "be in the mood" for sex. I know what it's like to have my body shut down on me. So I can understand something of what she is going through.
There are two sides to every story as you said. And it is vital that each side is understood by the people involved. Yes, I'm bitter, but not so bitter I want to end a long term relationship and just move on. That's not going to happen. We've worked through many hells before and we will this one too. There are times that dealing with the situation is tougher than others. And I am human. She is human. We're all human. And we are must assuredly not infallible. And it gets rough.
Understanding from people like you, Caly, and Laurie just to name a few is what helps a spirit be just a little bit stronger. My GF has outside sources for support. I've heard her talking about our problems to people she trusts. This board has become my source and I'm to glad have met the people here that are so kind.
We WILL work through this. I love her. She loves me. We're still IN love. And as long as we have that link, I'm not just going to up and leave. Many thoughts cross my mind that I may never act upon. I am human like I said above.
But it goes right back to what I said before in a previous post in referencing the Gretchen song. All I have to do is think of her and what we've been through, what we do have and I go back to the drawing board with her.
I won't post about this again. I have my reasons. But thank you so much for supporting me without subjective thinking.
Lafaye
Edited 1/21/2005 8:33 pm ET ET by lafaye_ak
Lafaye,
One of the really great things about this board is that you will get different ideas and opinions from a variety of people. The one thing I have noticed is that no matter what decision I have ever made -when I come back here with it I get support from everyone, even the ones who advised me in a different direction.
Sometimes, when I have seemed so upset for so long, my friends will tell me to change something. I think that is sometimes all you can do.
I hope you and your girlfriend find a resolution, but you may not.
Just for the record, Cat has a huge heart and was trying to support you and be a friend - don't let that upset you. I told you the same thing she did, in different words.
I want to quote my 16 yr old here since it seems appropriate
"Don't ask a question if you might not be able to handle the answer"
Now, with that said, I am having the worst night I have had in a long time - so PLEASE do not get angry with me!!!LOL
(((((((((((((((((Lafaye))))))))))))))))))))
Sandr
I've been in those types of sceneros also at one time.. So I know what your saying..
((((((Hugs Hon)))))))
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Hi Halo,
Thanks for replying. No I don't think she wants a live in roommate. I think it may be like you said: she's gotten into a rut that's comfortable and it's going to be hard to break. My GF also has a streak of pride 50 miles wide and just as long. It's a matter of pride this, I know, and it's hard enough to get her to talk to me about it. I never know what she's thinking and she has a very hard time telling me when I ask. But I've always been determined. Somehow we'll work through this. I love her enough to keep trying. Thanks for your understanding.
Lafaye
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