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A Question For Laurie...
| Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:17pm |
Hi Laurie,
I had a question for you. I think I'm just needing some hopeful news lol! My GF told me a few days ago, after we had a bit of a heated argument, that her libido was back. I don't know how long it's been that it's been back; I was so shocked that I didn't ask. And nothing has really changed as far as our intimacy. I was curious as to how things were going for you and yours since you shared your good news a while back.
Hope that's not prying into your business, but I guess I'm trying to keep despair at bay.
Thanks Laurie and I DO hope things are going fabulously for you and your GF now.
Lafaye

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Lafaye,
I guess we were posting to eachother at the same time.
I hope you guys figure something out - you are obviously very much in love.
You will get through this, with a little work.
Want to hear something funny? Jen turned ME down last night! The tables turned on me, it was really funny. She has been apologizing all day.
Hugs,
Sandr
LOL!
I hear you. We probably were posting at the same time. Sandra I've turned my GF down before. I've fallen asleep on her right in the middle of us talking all sexy and stuff. LMAO! And believe me I never heard the end of it the next day. I like Jen, was apologizing all day though I MMMMOOORRREE than made up for it later that day.
Yes, we're going to work through this. I want you to know we're having "the talk" tonight. And we've promised each other to listen without prejudice. And cross your fingers for us hon, because this will be a big one I'm sure.
Yes, we're very much in love. Always have been. She gives me butterflies and I swear THAT's never happened in my relationships.
Thanks Sandra!!!
Hugs...Lafaye
"Well, I'm not upset with you, Cat. Believe it or not, when I was in a relationship, there were times that I actually wasn't interested in sex. Surprise! Sometimes, I was too tired after work, or I had just had an argument with my mom on the phone, and I didn't want to use my girlfriend, at the time. So, I basically dealt with my feelings in a different way. Sometimes, I would get depressed and just shut down, and just stayed away from her. And when I say stay away from her that meant, no hugging, no kissing, no affection of any kind. But, eventually, I would stop my sexual fasting and just enjoy myself, with her. Or, if she wasn't in the mood, I just relieved myself. Which, of course, started off a whole row of arguments between the two of us."
Hi Gigi,
I've gone through this. My GF has gone through this before her Endo diagnosis. I don't think there's a woman on the planet that does not, eventually, go through a period of having a low libido, whatever the circumstance that caused it. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about something, caused by a medical condition and the subsequent treatments, that's gone on for a year or so now. And how to break out of that rut. Which is why we got the enhancers. We've never lied to each other. We've always been honest about our feelings toward each other. And if she didn't want to be with me, she'd say so. This is something else and I'm just trying to get input on how others have dealt with it, those with high AND low libidos. I'm not trying to be unfair toward those that have low libidos. Just trying to understand. That's it.
"nd the emotional, and sexual healing eventually took place."
This is where I want my GF and I to be, and to be able to do.
Thanks for sharing Gigi.
L.
You're welcome, Cat
{{{{{{{Cat}}}}}}}}.
Hugs,
Sebastian
http://www.facebook.com/sebastianbruce
I was not trying to or intending to upset you or any one.. Most out here know I care and try to see all points..
I get along with most everyone.. As far as Laurie and Her partner.. I have talked with Laurie in depth about this problem between her and her partner, before you arrived on our board..On chat and on the phone to some extent..Laurie and I are kinda in a crush thing for each other(*Winks at Laurie) She knows how I feel about all this stuff going on between her and her partner..
I care..
The two statements or lines I am posting below that you were in understanding about..
Sounds to me like you and a few other's out here.."(my words)
C >^. A .
Sandra,
I'm not upset at Cat. I don't even know her. I have just noticed some things and that being said, I asked Laurie a question. Others were welcome to reply of course, and I'm glad they did. But I was going to someone that I noticed had similar feelings, circumstances as my own. Almost parallel. And I wanted a bit of "hope" if you will.
It's not that I didn't like the answer, I didn't understand it mostly. But that's okay too. Not everything will always be understood. That's the beauty of being unique.
In any case, I've received tremendous support and I'll handle this in my own way as should anyone in any situation.
Thanks,
L.
You're welcome, Lafaye, in time the healing and bonding will happen. I know you're trying to be fair. I just thought that I would let Cat know some things.
Hugs to you!
Hugs,
Sebastian
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It's okay Cat. I have no hard feelings towards you, I picked up on the vibe if you will, with you and Laurie in reading the first few posts between you.
I'm not trying to be unfair toward those with low libidos. I've been there, where there was a period that sex in any form made my skin shrivel up. Just the thought of all that activity wore me out! So I do understand.
My GF and I have always, before her Endo, had a VERY VERY VERY active sex life. I'm talking active lol. And this is a huge change for BOTH of us. In different ways. And we have a situation with my Ex Husb. that we have to just be conscious of many things, including intimate situations. So that level of anxiety will always be there for me until my son is older and his speaking out will hold weight in a court of law. I just got out of a custody battle not two months ago. The reason for it: My ex wanted to make my lifestyle appear immoral before a court of law. And he took us through hell. Simply because my son told him he saw me kiss (a hen peck) my GF. It started something we weren't even ready to deal with. And that is something that will always be at the forefront of my mind. And, lol, call me a prude, but I am not risque enough to have sex with her brother and his child, and her mother and her children, and friends in the house. I just can't do it. I'm a prude. Okay, there it is lol. Now get me in a dressing room in a place where there are strangers and show me where the lock is. I'm not so much a prude that I can't be spontaneous. I just have a healthy respect for friends and family.
So, perhaps that helps you and others understand a bit more. This isn't a case of "I'm just not in the mood." This is a medical rooted thing. And now I've got to figure out how to get her out of the rut she's in. Sandra hit it on the head. AND get her to actually TAKE the enhancers we dropped 60 bucks on.
Hope that clears the fog a bit for you as far as the problem I'm having.
No hard feelings Cat, I've seen you spread the love around the board. I'm sure you're a warm hearted person. We just don't know each other very well.
Thanks for posting the last post you posted. (Say that three times fast!)
Lafaye
Hi Gigi,
I know. Sometimes a simple, "Don't give up." as Sandra told me goes a long way.
Hugs back to ya!
L.
CAT is the sweetest person I know here. She's always been a good friend to me. ((((CAT)))
rj
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