A Question For Laurie...

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A Question For Laurie...
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Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:17pm

Hi Laurie,

I had a question for you. I think I'm just needing some hopeful news lol! My GF told me a few days ago, after we had a bit of a heated argument, that her libido was back. I don't know how long it's been that it's been back; I was so shocked that I didn't ask. And nothing has really changed as far as our intimacy. I was curious as to how things were going for you and yours since you shared your good news a while back.

Hope that's not prying into your business, but I guess I'm trying to keep despair at bay.

Thanks Laurie and I DO hope things are going fabulously for you and your GF now.

Lafaye

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:21pm

I'm sure she is RJ. As is evidenced by the rallying she's getting right now. LMAO...never expected such a storm with this post. My my....There's no hard feelings on either side. LOL...everything is copesetic.

Thanks,

L.

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:51pm
Haa.... First off Layfae.. Saying that

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:54pm
Awwwwwwwwww ((((((((((RJ))))))))) Thanks Hon..Not hard being a good friend to you Hon..Your easy to care for..

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Fri, 01-21-2005 - 9:57pm
Yeah.. Ya all... ''It's cool"

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 12:25am

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Looking forward to getting to know you better lol!!!

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 6:25am

*Walks in the room and gives everyone a big hug!

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 3:57pm
Sandralea,
Thank you for your wise words and kind understanding. Also thank you for sharing the other side of this delicate matter.
I love Sheila with all of my heart and sould. I don't think I could ever leave her. Just thinking about leaving her makes me feel sick to my stomache.
I do feel that we are supposed to be together forever. I just hope this problem will eventually resolve itself.
We did have a wonderful two days (Thursday and Friday). Just no sex, but I somehow feel like it is moving in that direction kind of like in the beginning of a relationship.
Niether of us wants to make it seem like obligation sex. So the romance and intimacy that we have been sharing right now is very sweet and exciting. I can tell that while things may never get back to the way they were our first year together, they are getting better and we are feeling more connected again.
I am not pushing anything on her and I have told her that. It seems like she is more at ease this way. We can cuddle and kiss, and hold each other and that does feel good.
I am enjoying what we do have at this point.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 4:24pm
(((((Lafaye)))))
I also held back physically for so long that it seemed like I was living with a roommate. I finally told her that. We discussed being physical without the sex. The thing was I promised not to push physical affection into sex mode. We have been experiencing some very close contact and reconnecting. I told you I would keep you posted on our two days together while she was off. Well, no sex, but we did have a lot of physical contact. Sure it was hard on me but I think it is going to lead to more. I just think it is going to take time and a rebuilding like in a new relationship. That way it won't just seem like an act or an obligation.
Your partner seems to get very excited at the worst times but maybe she knows it won't be a long session and she is just wanting a quick act of sex. Or maybe she is needing to be in a more exciting place like people who get turned on when there is a possibility of getting caught.
I think it is okay for us to discuss this on the board because it helps us see that the cheating act would be such a killer for us. Also who knows someone might come up with some answers.
I have begun to get close to Sheila or touch her intimately in public or almost public places and she also gets turned on.
Maybe we just have to get more exciting for them. Maybe they have become bored with the "we have forever to make love in the privacy of our own home thing."
I am planning to try some new things and see where is leads. Then maybe the rest will come back too.
It can't hurt right?
I am going to assume that she wants a higher excitement factor. I will report on it when I try it and let you know. Maybe you should try it too. Just a thought.
Hugs and good luck,
Laurie

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 5:11pm
Hi Cat,
I always enjoy hearing the flip side of these things. I also respect the things you say.
I have found it very helpful in reguards to how I handle myself with this situation. I think it has helped so that we can be intimate in ways that do not have to lead to sex. In other words if Sheila feels like having other phyisical needs she does not have to worry that I am going to think it will lead to sex, and then hurt feelings.
Hearing you and sandera share the other side really does help me as far as not pushing the issue.
Sheila has responded by being very affectionate again.
Sometimes it is hard on me but now she is ok with me taking matters into my own hands if I need too. lol.
It would be nice to have a living, breathing person too but I feel like we are reconnecting as Sheila put it yesterday.
She likes the fact that I have this board to come to and get understanding, support and both side of the situation, which have leds Sheila and I to communicate more un this subject with out feeling those awkward feelings or not wanting to talk out of guilt, or pride etc.
So it really does help (Lafaye if you are reading this my friend) to hear both sides even if people do not agree with us, they too are being supportive by helping us to understand other ways of looking at this and other things.
I trust Cat/Lee, and always enjoy our discussions even if we are not agreeing. Infact it would get mighty boring if everyone just agreed to make others feel justified, you know?
Ok, I am rambling again as usual.
Hugs,
(((((Lee)))))
Laurie

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Sat, 01-22-2005 - 5:53pm

HUGE HUGS to you to Caly, and everyone else....yes, lol...we are!!!!

L...

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