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A Question For Laurie...
| Wed, 01-19-2005 - 10:17pm |
Hi Laurie,
I had a question for you. I think I'm just needing some hopeful news lol! My GF told me a few days ago, after we had a bit of a heated argument, that her libido was back. I don't know how long it's been that it's been back; I was so shocked that I didn't ask. And nothing has really changed as far as our intimacy. I was curious as to how things were going for you and yours since you shared your good news a while back.
Hope that's not prying into your business, but I guess I'm trying to keep despair at bay.
Thanks Laurie and I DO hope things are going fabulously for you and your GF now.
Lafaye

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Hi Laurie,
I know this message was to Sandra...but I can tell you last night was an incredible breakthrough. Chris, my girl, shared more with me than she ever has. And that is saying quite a bit knowing how much pride she has about showing her emotions. They are a weakness in her mind. And I felt closer to her than I ever have.
There was no sex....AMAZINGLY...ROFL...at my behest. I wanted what happened last night to remain pure, to let her know it is so much more than the act of sex. It is the act of connecting to souls. And today I saw a gentle side of her I never have.
Today, I feel wonderful...and loved...and wanted and I didn't even know how much I missed that.
I hope, this is the beginning of the healing.
We talked and talked until the wee hours of this morning. It was so very nice.
I hope it continues...for you...for me.
Lafaye...
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Hi Hon,
I took some time last night after reading Cat's posts ( lol...bless her heart) and I sat down and took a hard look at everything. Myself, Chris (my GF) and our lives and what has happened. I went back to the first year...and I know we've BOTH gotten in the familiarity thing.
And I'm going to bust that right up. My GF loves excitement. She's all about risque. I remember how much I used to be about being sexy. Just outright loving the fact that I'm a woman, an attractive one, and wasting no time letting my GF know. And I stopped doing that. I realized a lot of things last night.
I'm going to try and bring the excitement back and hope that I will have better news to report to you lol. Right now I've made up my mind to rekindle the connection without the physical aspect of it. Stop feeling victimized over not having the physical, because that's how I feel. And do what I need to do in the meantime in order to explore a more physical but not obligatory "this must lead to sex" type of mentality. Perhaps that will spark the interest for her again. My GF loves to be touched in public too. I will start doing that more...
Just being more spontaneous.
I feel excited over a new beginning if you will, for both of us. Keep me posted Laurie, and I will do the same.
I'm pulling like a mad fool knave for both of us!!!
Lafaye
I know what you mean about feeling so close without the sex. Maybe it is the communication and the fact they do not have to fear that we will push everything in to a sexual event.
I think it has been helpful hearing the otherside from people like sadralea and Cat.
Gigi has a good all around perspective too.
Let's keep in touch lafaye and keep each other informed.
I to hope it means good things for you and for me.
Hugs,
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http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
Yes I am reading it Laurie, and I agree with you. That's what I told Sandra. Not everyone will understand or agree and Cat and I cleared the air and we're cool. And you are right, agreeing for justification is dull lol...and I wouldn't have it any other way. It jarred me right out of the victim role. And that was hard to admit BELIEVE ME. I have a healthy dose of pride myself along with a long run of tunnel vision.
I respect everyone here, and sometimes I have to remind myself that hey, the truth may hurt but it will indeed set some things free, or at least, shake them loose. And that,I think, is what we needed.
So, cheers girls. Here goes everything!!!
HUGS TO ALL!
L.
I too am not going to play the victim anymore. I am doing my thing and looking sexy again and changing the areas where I became lazy. I think it really makes a difference.
It seems to be changing the way she engages with me.
Maybe I did need to make more changes or at least stop being lazy about my own appearance etc, instead of expecting her to do all the changing.
I hear you about pride, and now is the time to be taking back some pride and initiative.
I think we can make this work lafaye...
Hugs,
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
My web pages
http://homepage.mac.com/lauriedav/PhotoAlbum1.html http://hometown.aol.com/didoangst/myhomepage/photo.html
I know we can.
Chris told me last night that what she missed more than anything about me was how, no matter what was going on, there used to be this fire in me...that burned so bright people couldn't help but notice.
She said she MISSED... and my jaw actually dropped...being JEALOUS of other people being so attracted to me. Not necessarily in a non platonic way.
And she's right. I got lazy cause I stopped caring because I thought she stopped caring. And I used to be of a mind that I was going to shine for ME. Not for anyone else. I basically lost my sense of self.
Well, that's going to change. Quick. And I'm looking forward to the Shonda (that's me for those that don't know my real name) I used to know...
Fire her up Laurie!
L
Edited 1/22/2005 7:01 pm ET ET by lafaye_ak
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Thanks for the compliment on my name and the well wishes.
All this good karma is working I think....
You ladies are awesome!
L
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