Not the best of days..

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Not the best of days..
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 8:14am

Hi all,


Just wanted to apologize if Im not up to being 'chipper' today...


Last night just really took it all out of me... thank you all for the hugs in

*hugs             

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Registered: 09-01-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 9:36pm

Oh {{{{{{{Caly}}}}}}}


I know exactly how you feel; I happen to have a huge blow out fight with my mother JUST TODAY!

Scarlett
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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 9:45pm

Lea thank you


Knowing that someone else's son is in the same situation and doing well gives me the strength I need to get thru this


Your words were a comfort and a help.. more then you know.

*hugs

*hugs             

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Registered: 03-22-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 9:47pm

Thank you so much Scarlett


I needed this more then you know today.

*hugs             

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 9:58pm

Hi Caly. Me again. I just wanted to agree with the folks who have been pointing out that 14 is not too young to get ready on your own and come home alone for a bit. I was a latch-key kid long before 14, and I did just fine. I got ready by myself, packed my own lunches, went off to school on my own, came home and did homework, watched TV, read, whatever....sometimes I even made my own dinner if my mom had to work later than usual. If I felt lonely, I called a friend. But for the most part, I felt pretty darn proud that I was taking care of myself. I still say that you and your ex know your son better than other people. Trust your own instincts and don't let people like your mom get you down! You're awesome and we all know it!!!

Jules

Jules

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Registered: 03-21-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 10:02pm

Thank you Jules


I know my Son needs this as you say to build his confidence as much as anything.

*hugs ~ Caly

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 10:05pm

Yes, I did. And I am glad it helped. Hang in there, Caly. It's going to be okay.

Jules

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 01-31-2005 - 11:23pm
(((((((Caly))))))))) I did go and read the post you had the link to..I understand more now about the post of your stepping down as CL..
I am so sorry Hon your Mother did this to you......Caly.. First off your Son is your Ex's child and yours.. You both have decided with your Son to try this that you all have decided on.. Thats for you all to decide, not her..... If your Son and you and your ex agree he can handle this.... then so be it..
If it doesn't work out quite right so what!?.. Nothing is perfect, nothing is carved in stone..
No..Your

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Registered: 06-24-2003
Tue, 02-01-2005 - 5:25am
Caly,
Your son chose to stay in VT. He knows that he can come see you or live with you at any time.
You Mom is so wrong and she just does not get it. You and your ex deserve to have and live your lives. Your son is old enough and blessed enough to have both of his parents love him and give him a choice of where he wants to live.
You are not abandoning him. If that were the case you would be leaving and forcing him to stay and that is not the case.
Your Mom is just wrong in my oppinion.She is trying to lay a heavy guilt trip on you by using your son. What she really wants to say is don't go be a lesbian. I think that is what is going on in my oppinion. She thinks laying the guilt trip on you will make you stay and not have or live your life.
Just let her yell or what ever and do not say anything the whole time, then when she wears herself out bring up another topic and don't even mention what she was talking about.
Sometimes you have to just let them blow like a volcano and just like a volcano, there is nothing you can do to stop it. But you can ignore it and let her blow until she runs out of steam. I just tune it out when it occures, I think of all kinds of things, then when she asks if I heard anything she said I say, yes I will give it some thought. Maybe I will and maybe I won't. But once we are adults we have to decide for ourselves.
Another fun thing to do when someone is ranting and raving at you is to just imagine Charlie Browns teacher, All you hear is "Wah wah...waah..waahwah"...Try it next time, I swear it makes it bearable.
Hugs,
Laurie
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Edited 2/1/2005 5:30 am ET ET by lauriedav
Laurie

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Registered: 08-08-2003
Tue, 02-01-2005 - 8:17pm

Hi Caly,

I went back and read your post on Depression Support. I am so so so sorry you're going through this. I can empathize; my mother is exactly the same way. All I can tell you is the same thing everyone else has said; your life is your life. Your life between your son, you and your ex is YOUR LIFE. You're a grown woman with her OWN LIFE and your mother, as much as she wants to, cannot control that.

I know it hurts to hear someone you love so dearly berate and degrade your character and mostly, your mothering abilities. Nothing hurts more than that. It strikes at the very core of you. Caly you're a wonderful person and if no one else knows that, we all here know that. You're also strong, I know you are, and don't forget you have the love of a woman that will be there for you. Lean on her.

Know that we're all here for you...and we all love you...and we understand and NOBODY hates you hun! You're an awesome person with a heart as big as any I've ever known. Be strong....

((((((((((((((((((CALY))))))))))))))))))

Hugs....

L.

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