nervous about coming out to more family

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nervous about coming out to more family
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Mon, 01-31-2005 - 9:50pm

Where is that *nervous* icon?

I have family (aunts, uncles, cousins) in NY/NJ and have been invited to my cousin's wife's baby shower in April. These family members know I am going through a divorce, but I haven't told them yet that I am a lesbian. I was thinking of letting them in on it while I'm there for the baby shower...well, not *at* the shower, but during that weekend. :0) I am nervous driving out there on my own, as I tend to get lost very easily. Heck, I've gotten lost in my home town a number of times, I'm embarrassed to say. But I told my aunt that I would try because I want to see everyone. Well, that was all well & good...but then I got this email tonight. My aunt suggested that I have my "friend" drive me to the shower...joked that she didn't even need to bring a gift. See, this past summer, my g/f drove me to NJ for a family BBQ -- she was heading out that way to visit her brother anyway, and so my family all met her then. I thought they were all in the dark, but now I'm wondering if they suspect the truth. I would love for her to come along with me, but now I'm terribly nervous. What if I bring her and tell them I am a lesbian, and they freak out because they had no clue?! I don't think they'd really freak out -- they are all so cool and nice and caring -- but gosh, I just feel so nervous. I would love to have my g/f with me when I tell them, but I think she'd be nervous about that. Oh, I don't know what to do now. I know I'm rambling. Sorry. I'm just so darn nervous about this! Ack!

Jules :o)

Jules

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 02-02-2005 - 8:39pm
I think the phone call now would be good if it is what you are ready for....
we all find that moment so to speak when we need to speak.....
mine was going to be a phone call from NY after I moved there with my first gf...with her that by my side if I needed her,yet it turned out to be when I returned home from NY to visit family and found she had cheated though I had only been gone from NY for two days....I still had to come clean and start being me...
My brother's way was in a letter addressed to my mom.....we all have our time and palce...good luck,let us know what you decide and how it goes....have a great one,Jo

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