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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 3:21pm
Hi ladies, I realized I posted in the wrong place,oops! Well the woman I was dating I had to end it today. This person is a 38 years, 3 kids, ages 16,11 and 2 yrs. She lives at home for the past 3 with her parents, very wealthy background. But this person had a nervous breakdown 3 yrs ago and try suicide last yr. because of a 6 yr relationship that ended badly, she is best friend with the baby's mom of the 2 yr. which that relationshiped ended after the baby was born and said that friendship no one comes inbetween, also they use each other for sex. This person told me, that I did not stimulate her mind with good conversations, that silence isn't suppose to happen between two people. She also told me that I was not a strong person and that I can't sort out my emotions or feelings. Everything she told me within the 3 weeks, she has retracted. She told me that it is her way and her way only, that she is arrangont and that she is drop dead sexy and that she can get any woman she wants. She beleives in no intimacy in dating and that sex is sex to use each other. She also pick apart my life and my lifestyle,told me that I was a prim and proper, reserve uptight person.
I told her that I could and would not continue to be with someone like this, a lesson learn and I do hurt.
I am still putting resumes in, I have my name on the sub list for a private school. I have started to some work with the church to keep busy and work out at the gym as well.
Otherwis, the savings acct. has dried up and I live on 472. a month.
I am blessed to have a roof over my head and that I have good health and friends. I am not at all like this person said I was and that is what hurts.
Everyone have a great weekend! gracemae59

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 3:54pm

Oh Gracemae,

I am so sorry sweetie. You did not deserve that at all. I am really sorry that happened to you but she sounds very unstable. You don't need that in your life anyway.

I know thats the typical thing to say but it is true.

Things will get better (again typical but true)

I wish I had some other words for you....

Hugs, Sandra

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Registered: 02-04-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 4:40pm
(((((Oh gracemae)))))
You are probably better off now. You can surely do better. She seems kind of mean.
No one deserves that. I hope your heart will heal soon and you can move on and find someone who is right for you.
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Registered: 01-23-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 5:13pm

(((((((Gracemae))))))) This woman obviously lives in her own world. I do not agree with her beliefs at all and I am glad you had the strenght to break things off with her - wich proves her theory wrong that you are a weak person. You deserve much much better, as the other have said.


Best of luck on your job search. I hope things look up for you soon.

 

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Registered: 02-01-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 5:39pm

Im sorry to hear that Gracemae and I certainly cant agree with her notions.


TiNG and I feel just the opposite about silence and consider the Melissa E. song one of our favorites.
......"when you find the One, there's no question in the silence"..... and our most intimate moments are often silent ones.


Anyway, Im sure from the sounds of this that you are better off without her.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Registered: 09-01-2004
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:04pm

Oh Gracemae, I'm so sorry that she hurt you.

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In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 8:15pm
Gracemae, hold your head up high. You still have your self respect and friends to help you at this time.

 

 

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In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:38pm
just my 2 cents..maybe you didn't "Waste" to much time on her.
sounds like she has an ego problem,maybe why she really couldn't have anyone after they got to know her.
She didn't have you pegged right at all you said....she didn't really know who you are,and well to me sounds like she didn't deserve to know you and didn't deserve you grace.....you will find better lady.....we all will in time...god bless and keep yourself on the postive vibe......she isn't worth it hugs to you.Jo
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Registered: 09-29-2003
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:39pm
Wow! ((((Grace)))) Everytime I say "ya never know"...I feel like it's suppose to be like a new revelation to me, but nope... it's not.. It's beginning to be second nature..
I am so glad it's over with her.. for you..
You definately know (I do hope you do!) that you are not any thing of what she said and you do indeed deserve way better..
This person has her own way of thinking and perhaps there is someone out there that matches her, but whoa,

 C  >^. A .

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Registered: 01-28-2005
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 10:43pm

(((((((((Gracemae)))))))))))))))

Friends and good health is a start! I agree with you- what she said about you isn't true. You are a strong and courageous woman Grace!

Big hugs,

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: gracemae59
Fri, 02-04-2005 - 11:27pm

{{{{{{{{{{Gracemae}}}}}}}}}} Hold on, honey things will get better for you.

 


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