Crush

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Registered: 04-08-2004
Crush
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Sun, 02-13-2005 - 11:37am

I wrote a while ago regarding a crush that I have on my coworker. Unfortunatly, I haven't had any real long coversations with her. The closet i've got to speaking with her was when I greeted her in the hallway. I'm extremely shy and intimdated around smart, gorgeous girls which is the reason why I haven't approached her. On a positive note, I noticed that she has been looking at my direction more often than before and she smiles when she sees me. When her and I lock eyes, she gave me this rather seductive stare and I returned the favor by smiling back at her which i think made her blush. I was doing research on body language and flirting, and found out that a person will point their shoulders at the person they like. However my crush looks at me from a side angle but I'm assuming she does this so it won't look so obvious that she is starring at me.
Do you think she likes me... judging from what i wrote.

I'm thinking of writing her a short note that says..."I think your cute. Are you bi, les,, gay or straight? and have her respond back to me.

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Registered: 02-15-2004
In reply to: tangybr1
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 11:42am

Hi Tangybr1,

I don't know about writing a note. My mom says never write anything on paper that you wouldn't want to read to the rest of the world. It was good advice.

Do you have a lunch hour at work? Ask her to lunch and talk there, in person. That is what I would do.

On the body language, I'm clueless. LOL

Keep us posted!
Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 02-04-2005
In reply to: tangybr1
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 1:28pm
Welcome back tangybr1,
I think I would think twice about the note. What if you are missreading her signals and she shares that note with others.
Also it could be she is enjoying flirting and nothing more.
I agree with Sandra on this one. Maybe ask her to go to lunch sometime. I would talk to her more at work too.
Keep us posted!
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Registered: 01-23-2005
In reply to: tangybr1
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 2:13pm
I second Sandra and Laurie. Very good points they made! You don't know who this girl is really. Maybe she really is interested (or curious at least). Or maybe she likes getting attention from you (an ego trip maybe). Or maybe she just smiles at everyone, you never know until you talk to her. Icksne on the note. Just sit down with her sometime, in a casual yet discreet setting, and feel her out (conversationally, not literally ;^)).

 

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Registered: 01-28-2005
In reply to: tangybr1
Sun, 02-13-2005 - 4:09pm

I can understand you being shy. I'm shy too. However, sending a note could be a disaster. Plus, sending a note is sort of "highschool." Even if she were lesbian or bi, a note may lead her to think you aren't confident or you lack maturity.

Confidence is sexy. So, what I would do is try and get to know her. Start out small. Share small talk, so you will overcome the shyness. Once you start feeling a bit more confident have lunch. Getting to know her will probably answer most of your questions if not all.

Good luck!

bug :)