I've got a ? for the divorced of us ...

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Registered: 09-10-2004
I've got a ? for the divorced of us ...
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Sat, 02-19-2005 - 1:33pm

Hi Ladies,


As most of you know, and for those that don't, I'm almost over with my divorce. Now the question/problem I am having.


Idiot and I are pretty much getting along, I put my foot down and stood up to him so now he REALLY knows I'm a lot stronger than I was.The thing is that his Grandma and Dad aren't doing well at all. They won't be here for much longer. Now ... Do I go to the funerals ( they were a part of my life for 20 years ) or what do I do? My heart is telling me to go, but then the brain kicks in and wonders what I am thinking of.


Any suggestions will be great !


Thanks and hugs,

Robin

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Registered: 02-15-2004
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 12:00am

Robin,


I would love to give you some words of wisdom, but I only have 6 months experience in he area of divorce, lol!


I guess it depends on all the circumstances - how is your relationship with his family?


I am glad you got some good advice from the others here....hugs,


Sandra

Sandr

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Sun, 02-20-2005 - 12:14am
Well, my parents have been divorced since the '70's.
They along with their other ex's and my step dad and dad's current long term girlfriend all showed up and it was fine. They both went to each other's parents funerals after the divorce.
They both show up to all family events too and are always invited so I guess it is fine.
It never seemed wrong since they all new the person who died.
I also think they do it because of my sister and I.
I hope you can talk to your ex about it before hand.
Take care, you have a lot of good advice here.
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Sun, 02-20-2005 - 8:37am

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Sun, 02-20-2005 - 6:59pm

(((((( Ladies

Robin

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