Mixed emotions..But a break through ...

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Mixed emotions..But a break through ...
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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 2:05am

Just a short one... to let all who know of me and my boys this.. Am just going to tell you that I had to get to him today/tonight because he and ex were having an argument.. I was on my phone almost the whole ride from here to Vt with him.. Yelling going on


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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 2:51am

(((((((((((((((CAT))))))))))))))))

What a heart wrenching post. My heart is with you. I can sympathize some - but I'm on the receiving end of the emotional trauma my son goes through. It's the opposite with me. I get all the bad stuff, dad gets all the good. And it's so hard when I want him to know how much I love him, how precious he is to me.

I am so sorry your son is experiencing such angst and confusion. But now he knows that you are there, he has a haven when it gets to be too much too bear. You've crossed such a huge chasm (your son meeting S) and now he knows fully who you are, where your heart is, and what you want for him.

One day, like you said, hopefully he will decide to go live with you so that he can get the love and understanding he deserves.

Dearest Cat, I will keep you in my prayers and your son also that his heart can become strong and he can make the decision he needs to make to be healthy and happy.

Thank you for sharing such a personal event.

Hugs and caring coming your way,

~L~

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 3:04am

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}



~Ginny~ <-- Click to send me email

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 6:12am

I'm really, really pleased for you and your sons, Cat. He called you when he was upset, he knew right where to go for love and support. That alone is worth all the stars in heaven!


And how fabulous that he met S. You said 'he knows about s' - can I assume he knows her as your partner/bestest friend then? With a picture of a real person in his head now, instead of the images planted by his father, you've been able to give him a mighty tool for making decisions on his own. I'll bet that little man will be doing a lot of thinking in the near future!


While I'm sure there were 'downs' as well as 'ups' to the whole episode, I'm still so excited. Actually, if you were somehow transplanted here, I'd grab you in a giant hug and dance/jump happily around with you in celebration of what a milestone this break through actually is! I'm that pleased.


I feel like I've known you for ages, woman. And even though we don't email eachother or banter together so much as you do with others, I consider you special, my friend. Ever so slowly you've been taking little baby steps towards your sons. I know it's been hard, I've seen you so scared even to write about it. But look at how far you've come! For all that you feel is yet left undone, you must take a minute and feel proud of this latest accomplishment!


Giant mama to mama hugs~

 

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 7:53am

Hi Cat,


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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 12:49pm

((((((((((((( My Kitty Cat )))))))))))))


I think you are a fantastic and loving Mom. The boys are so lucky to have you in their lives. (((((( S ))))))) for understanding and giving you and DS alone time.


Hugs, love, and a crystal bowl of mineral water,

Robin

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 2:54pm
Yes cat, I do know. And I hope and pray that someday my son will reach out to me the way your did with you. I got misty eyed reading this - a little bit of sadness but also happiness for you and your boy. I know how much that meant to you hun. Giant bear

 

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 5:41pm
((((((Lafaye))))))Thanks for your kind words..
I am sorry you are going through what you mentioned with your son.. I didn't know.. That has to be so hard for you..
Your son is so beautiful(Viewed pic)

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 5:42pm
Thanks Ginny.. Those bears are so cute!.
((((((Hugs))))))

((((Hugs))))


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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 6:08pm
(((((Nony)))))) yes I know we don't e-mail back and forth or banter

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Sat, 02-26-2005 - 6:26pm

(((((Lori ...Sandy))))) Of course you can e-mail me any time! Yes..Either of you..Both of you..*Smiles...Thank you for the prayers and Positive thoughts.. I need them. They need them..
I know Sandy


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