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| Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:43am |
I hate whining, but I know I will always get honest advice and hugs
| Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:43am |
I hate whining, but I know I will always get honest advice and hugs
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As much hell as I went through with my ex of five years, the night of the divorce I sat and bawled. I mean sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. I was scared, I felt alone, and the world was suddenly way too big for me. I worried about my son; and my ability to care for him on my own. That was the scariest. I cried for 4 days. All kinds of thoughts went through my head. But in the end I knew what I'd done was right for ME. And after about a week, I found my happiness. I believe you will too. With time. You're grieving for the loss of a 20 year relationship; that is COMPLETELY natural. Let your body and heart do what it needs to do.
We are here for you....
Hugs and Love
L
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Thanks so much for letting me know that this sobbing is normal, I was thinking I was weak. You hit the nail on the head ... I'm scared. But with you ladies, I can get thru this.
Many hugs and love,
Robin
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~Ginny~ <-- Click to send me email
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Thanks Ginny, I really needed that :) thanks for being here for me thru this extremly tuff time. I can always count on a huge hug from you, and that means a lot to me.
Hugs and love,
Robin
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Wobin,
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I believe that tears are God's answer to relieving the pain you feel in your heart. They wash away the pain and clear space for new love and happiness to reside. And that love and happiness, doesn't necessarily have to be with someone new. I think you need to cry, reflect, and decide what it is you really want. Does he feel the same way about you? Is this just as hard on him? Who do you want to be? Are you willing to go back to status Quo and not be really happy? You have some heavy decision making to do, and to me, the only way to clear through the situation is to walk through the rain of tears.
I can say from experience that there must be more there in your heart. Some people like myself experienced great joy after the divorce. Only, not everyone is treated as badly as some of us have been. Others at LL have experienced hard times sorting through their feelings of divorce. So there is no one answer that defines what and how you should feel. What I have experienced many times in my life, is the pain and suffering that seems endless. At those mopments all I can do is buy more tissues, listen to the music that touches my soul, and cry til I can cry no more. Emptying the pain. For some it might take days, others weeks, for me it takes a few years it seems because when I love, I love with all that I have. I know no other way to give of my self.
You are in a grieving and mourning process of your life. Surround yourself with friends and find a support group maybe in your area. Of course coming here is always a good thing because of how great everyone is. I found friends in Richmond, where all I need to do is walk over and cry on their shoulders no questions ask. They hold me, and at times that's all I need.
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Robin,
I was extremely upset after my divorce. I still get upset. I know exactly what you are feeling. I know it's hard. I don't have any words of wisdom for you - but I can offer an understanding ear. You can email me anytime if you need to talk to someone....
imnlove22@yahoo.com
Big hugs,
Sandra
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As usual, very well put.
Hugs,
L.
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I'm very sorry that you are having such a rough time!
My divorce was probably the simplest divorce in history. We didn't have children. We had separate accounts. We didn't own anything together. But, even with simple, it was like I was going to a funeral. My ex was a my best friend. I miss his friendship. For me, what I did to get through it, is I asked myself what would make me happy. I began to develop dreams for myself. Eventually, I started back to school. I'm not saying finding out what will make you happy and working on it will take all the pain away, but it does get you focused. Your dream doesn't have to be school related. I knew a guy who wanted very badly to be a UPS driver. He applied at UPS for 5 years. Finally, they hired him. He is living his dream. I'm sure during that 5 years, he felt sad at times. Just as I feel sad at times too. Your dream can be anything. It doesn't have to be career related. My two examples just happen to touch on career related dreams.
You know- nothing in life is free. You pay in some way or fashion. If it is free money wise, then you may pay with your time or your physical energy or some other way. Your divorce isn't free. But, your married life wasn't free either. Satisfaction is realized because of struggle. If there weren't any struggle, then you wouldn't know what satisfaction was.
I hope you get to feeling better soon. Please check in and vent when you need to. It is healthy to cry and vent.
Hugs,
bug
Each person copes with this in their own way.. I did not divorce my last ex.. We never married.. 14 years in common law relationship.. Not even sure if it's reconized here any more.. Thing is I went through years of sadness and pain and was elated at finding myself free
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