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Am I nutz or what ? ** Vent/Triggers
| Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:43am |
I hate whining, but I know I will always get honest advice and hugs
| Sat, 02-26-2005 - 11:43am |
I hate whining, but I know I will always get honest advice and hugs
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It's okay {{{{{ Robin }}}}}. I believe many woman cry on the finalization of their divorce.. and can do for weeks, off and on, afterwards. Don't put extra pressure on yourself wondering if it's normal!
It IS a grieving process. Sure, there may be plenty of good reasons for the divorce, but your emotions/heart will force you to acknowledge the losses involved as well. At the same time, we're refiguring who we are. It's a lot to take on all at once, hon.
My only piece of advice is to tell you to journal the feelings. Don't let them run in unproductive circles in your mind. But there's a rule you have to follow; you also need to write about the upside (for want of a better word)of the loss, or a gameplan for dealing with the loss.
I know, I haven't explained well. here's an example.
I miss the friendship I once had with my ex.
Robin,
You do need to mourn the loss of your marriage just like you would mourn the loss of anyone that you loved.
Scarlett
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(((((( All the ladies of LL ))))))
I so appreciate all the hugs and support y'all have given me thru this very trying time. I have learned a few things thru reading your posts ...
1- I'm human
2- I'm worth love, not disrespect
3- I can cry and still be strong
I love all of you so much I don't know how to put it in words. ROFLMAO ... Put this date on the calendar, you made Wobin speechless ;)
Hugs and smooches,
Robin
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(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((WOBIN))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hi hun. You KNOW I love you. I just wanted to say that these ladies are right, it is natural to cry and greive after something like this. I know I hadn't been through a divorce but, with my ex fiance, he cheated on me with 4 girls in 2 weeks before our 3 month anniversary and it felt like my heart was yanked out and put through a shredder a few thousand times. I know how you feel in some aspect and just always know, I love you and I'm here for you if you ever need a shoulder to cry on. If need be, I'll find a way to get to you. ((Dont tempt me, you know I will, too)
I love you wobin. Keep your head up! You are worth more than you could ever know. More than he could ever give you. And that's why it needed to end. There's more out there for you. Something WAYYYY better that you actually deserve. You are one of the most kind-hearted women I know. And I'm soo proud to call you my friend.
BTW, I'm still working on getting you a baby to eat up :D I love you!
((((((((((WOBIN))))))))))
Love,
Sissy
No you are not nutz. My Mom did the same thing. It is a lonely feeling. It is a major life change. It makes all the sense in the world.
Suddenly you are faced with taking care of everything your self and living alone. It just makes sense to feel sad.
I am thinking of you and hope that you will get used to your know life soon.
Love you,
Laurie
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