Ohhhhhh Kitty Cat?????

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Registered: 01-23-2005
Ohhhhhh Kitty Cat?????
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 10:41pm

I meant to post a message this morning to let you know that I would be thinking of you and your son today, but ran out of time.


Just wanted to let you know that my thoughts were with y'all, and would like to know how it went, if you want to share. If not, that's okay. We luv ya!

updating my sig, please bear with me!

 

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Thu, 03-10-2005 - 11:51pm

Awwwww (((Beth))) Thanks Hon..
Well I arrived with ~S~ in VT. early enough to drop her off at stores to walk around, and procceded after doing so ,over to ex's apt.. Son was nervous(Understandably) was not quite ready.. Had no socks or shoes on yet and was looking for clean socks(Don't ask ) Well you could ask but a whole other story...


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Registered: 02-01-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 7:30am

Hey Cat


Glad it went well and he sounds like a great therapist.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:57am

"He asked a lot of questions and some I do believe ex was not happy with like what was I to my son and where did I live.. Seems he thought we all lived together.. He got my name address and cell # ..I will call and give him my home # as it's new and I couldn't think of it..I think ex was not happy my being there, he seemed to have an air about him that I really had no business there"!

You know Cat that's a good sign. Your ex doesn't want you there because deep down inside he knows that your son needs to be with you! The Therapist knows that too! Whether he likes it or not, the therapist is going to make changes to help your son, and those changes are going to go against ex's grain no matter how it's sliced! Your ex sounds like my ex hubby...He tuned everything out at the therapists office.

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halo

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halo

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Registered: 02-04-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 5:28pm
Wow! Lee,
I am so glad to hear you went through with this!
He sounds like a good therapist. He is using some of the new methods etc.
My counselor uses those methods too.
I believe you can call the therapist and arrange to speak to him alone if need be.
Explain to him why you can't speak in front of ex. He should know about that and other issues.
I am happy for your son and you for taking this positive step. Please do keep us up on the progress when you feel it is right to do so.
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Registered: 01-23-2005
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 8:39pm

I could tell my son was upset when I got to his house to pick him up to bring them to therapist,

 

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Registered: 09-29-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:02pm

Thanks ((((Caly))))) I am going to try getting in touch with the therapist Monday about some time alone to talk with him..
I know he's not going to get very much from ex about


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Registered: 09-29-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:05pm
Yeah Halo.. I get that feeling also.. Ex definately would be happier if I didn't get involved.. I am glad what I tell the Therapist has to stay with him, but still beable to help my son with the knowing of things..
((Hugs)))

((((Hugs))))


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Registered: 09-29-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:13pm
Hi Laurie.. Yes I am glad for my son he is getting to speak to someone about how he feels..and hope-fully can work through his feelings and get past this panic stuff..
I know he holds lots of pain and anger..
I will indeed call to see about getting some time alone with his therapist..
(((Hugs))))Lee`

((((Hugs))))


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Registered: 09-29-2003
Fri, 03-11-2005 - 9:19pm
((((Hugs Beth)))) Yes.. Thats how he acted..Like he was afraid to talk at that time ..But I of course know that feeling I lived after all with his father for many years and did like wise..
I hope you can get more time in with your sweetfeets ..
I know your fears of your ex and his family with the way they go about things and things they say.. But don't be like me and allow them to frighten you out of many years with your son..He needs you....

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