It Breaks my heart...

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Registered: 02-04-2005
It Breaks my heart...
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 3:51am
I have read posts that the board has changed and become more serious or depressing.
I have been referred to Kim's blog for complaints she keeps posting about the board.
It breaks my heart to think the board is going down hill.
I am challenging everyone here to post under this thread what they think needs to change.
It is easy to complain, anyone can complain, but in the military we have a rule do not complain unless you have at least 3 resolutions to back you up.
That is the tough part, making changes that appeale to the majority.
We had many changes when caly took over and people complained, then Beth and I took the board back to the old format and still, people are complaining.
Well, then it is time to fix things up around here.
This board belongs to everyone. I personally find it very weak for a person to complain and then not have a suggestion to fix something.
Lets stop whining, and put our heads together and come up with ideas or suggestions to make the majority interested in the board.
The only thing I would not like to take away from this board is for people to be able to feel comfortable to post whatever is on their mind without fearing that they will be judged.
What seems like a petty thing to one person might seem like a major thing to another.
You will never know what a person is truly going through unless you are living their life completely.
So, if you have a complaint, then speak up now and bring a positive suggestion to help the thing you are complaining about. Tell me why people are getting hurt feelings and staying away from the board.
Tell me why changes are not working for you. Tell me why the old format is not working now.
Tell me what you want. this is everyone's board. But, if you do not speak up then nothing will get accomplished. If it is me, tell me so, I would rather you be upfront with me than hold back.
Just please tell me what the deal is here.
we cannot accomplish a goal if we sit and do nothing to work toward it.
Our goal and mission is to keep this board interesting.
I will do whatever it takes to help this board. Will you?
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 6:03am

While I am flattered that people take the time to read my blog, it should be remembered that it represents ONLY my views.

Kim
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Registered: 01-28-2005
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 6:28am

Hi Laurie,

I'm sending you an email. There is one aspect of this that I cannot post on the board. I personally haven't any complaints in regard to the board. It was rough for me personally when Pam stepped down as CL, but I've gotten over that. And, her stepping down didn't stop me from posting.

I feel it is important that people feel they can post about whatever is bothering them. It doesn't bother me if someone posts about an issue over and over again. You have a freedom to not read a post. I think that everyone should exercise that freedom if they feel someone is being too dramatic (in their opinion). As you put it, sometimes it is hard to truly understand what someone must be going through.

I love reading Kim's blog. Kim is a great person. I know everyone here knows she's great. But, she has opinions I don't always share. I consider her a friend. But, I don't agree with her on everything. Her blog isn't the deciding factor of happiness on this board.

Hugs (((((((((((((Laurie)))))))))))

bug

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Registered: 02-01-2005
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:01am

Good Morning Laurie,


Thank you so much for posting this.

 *Hugs ~  Caly

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Registered: 01-31-2005
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:46am

Laurie,


I've been very quiet about my feelings on this topic, but with your post I finally feel comfortable sharing some things. Thanks for giving us

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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:04am
Well said Ting, I wholeheartedly agree.

Kim
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Registered: 12-16-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:26am

One must not judge a blog based on a selective reading of entries.

Kim
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Registered: 09-29-2003
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:05am
Wow!.. I was surprized to see this post..I came here because I am still home because of stupid car problems that are hope-fully being fixed and hope-fully not costly!..(up-date on price! 500 dollars!!!!!!!

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:13am

(((((Laurie)))))


This message board is what it is.

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Registered: 08-01-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:43am

Amen, Pam!!!

I feel a little bit in the dark, I had no clue what was going on when Pam stepped aside or Caly, but maybe that's better. I don't want to worry about politics.

I have been on several message boards since getting a computer about 9 years ago. I must say that I truly enjoy this one!! If there is negativity or hurt feelings, you are doing a good job of keeping it private (must be email). I have been on boards where people came in and bashed posters- often people that did not even belong to the board.
I have been on boards where everyone is friendly but people don't post anything for days.
I have been on boards w/ trolls who bring up topics just to get a reaction.
I have tried other lesbian boards, but the whole board was about: "SWF wants to meet hot SWF", or "Email me I want to experiment", etc.
This board has offered me support when none of my real life friends could.
This board has shown me the pros and cons of living out a lesbian lifestyle. Not something I can do on impulse- there are lots and lots of ramifications, as I am learning.
This board has educated me in some of the fun parts of being in a lesbian relationship.
This board has given me an outlet for venting (moaning), wishing, sharing, and supporting.
Not one person on this board has judged me for being in a married lifestyle yet exploring the possibility of lesbianism without acting on it.
The board is fun.
The board is supportive.
The board is helpful.
Thanks to all of you who make it that way!!!

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 10:58am
Kim,
I hope you will accept my apologies. I felt like I was needing to defend the people on the board to which some of your bloging seemed to me to refer to.
I also felt the need to defend the board.
While some of your blog stung me as I read it, I lashed out to you in a very rude way. I do apologize.
I never meant that you should not blog on certain subjects. I just thought it should be ok for me to comment my view points in the comments section.
I did put blame on you that you do not deserve.
I have read you blogs about the board and they never hit me like this one did.
I won't make any excuses for myself and apologize for my bad temper.
I agree that I went over board on some of the things I said.
So I stand corrected and hope you will accept my apologies.
By apologizing, I don't mean that I agree with everything you say, I just mean that I handled myself rather badly in my responses to you.
Like I said, this board belongs to everyone.
Your blog belongs to you.
And no, your blog does not make or break this board. I really did not mean to come accross as suggesting that. Yes, I did go a tad over board.
I know as always, those who like the board will stay and those who do not like it will go and then there are those who will always come and go when the timing is right for them.
I do believe you are entitled to your oppinions.
I do feel like there are some problems and I just want people to speak up about it and try by putting our heads together to fix some of the things that people are uncomfortable with.
Maybe that is not possible, but we will never know until we try.
Anyway, sorry to have been so harsh.
I hope in time you can forgive me for my lashing out at you.
Take care,




Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/

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