It Breaks my heart...

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Registered: 02-04-2005
It Breaks my heart...
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 3:51am
I have read posts that the board has changed and become more serious or depressing.
I have been referred to Kim's blog for complaints she keeps posting about the board.
It breaks my heart to think the board is going down hill.
I am challenging everyone here to post under this thread what they think needs to change.
It is easy to complain, anyone can complain, but in the military we have a rule do not complain unless you have at least 3 resolutions to back you up.
That is the tough part, making changes that appeale to the majority.
We had many changes when caly took over and people complained, then Beth and I took the board back to the old format and still, people are complaining.
Well, then it is time to fix things up around here.
This board belongs to everyone. I personally find it very weak for a person to complain and then not have a suggestion to fix something.
Lets stop whining, and put our heads together and come up with ideas or suggestions to make the majority interested in the board.
The only thing I would not like to take away from this board is for people to be able to feel comfortable to post whatever is on their mind without fearing that they will be judged.
What seems like a petty thing to one person might seem like a major thing to another.
You will never know what a person is truly going through unless you are living their life completely.
So, if you have a complaint, then speak up now and bring a positive suggestion to help the thing you are complaining about. Tell me why people are getting hurt feelings and staying away from the board.
Tell me why changes are not working for you. Tell me why the old format is not working now.
Tell me what you want. this is everyone's board. But, if you do not speak up then nothing will get accomplished. If it is me, tell me so, I would rather you be upfront with me than hold back.
Just please tell me what the deal is here.
we cannot accomplish a goal if we sit and do nothing to work toward it.
Our goal and mission is to keep this board interesting.
I will do whatever it takes to help this board. Will you?
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 11:02am
<"If you don't want people to read your judgemental complaints about what they talk about on the board or if it bother's you to hear their comments, then why do you insist on attacking the board in a public forum where the public has a right to voice their oppinions. If you can't handle it then maybe you should just keep a diary." I thought that's what a blog is--a diary.>
And just to clarify, I meant the old fashioned diaries that were private and never to be read by anyone.
Anyway that was very catty of me to say.
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 11:41am
Here is my take on it.
And excuse me for having my say as does Kim, But I was just saying whatever I wanted also. It is a public forum. It has a place for comments does it not?
who makes the rules on who can say what they want and who cannot say what they want? That is what my whole point is/ was.
That everyone should be able to say what they want not just one person or one person saying anything they want while judging other's for what they say and not wanting to hear someone who is not happy with what they say themselves. I mean come on, everyone has the freedom to speak out not just one person. But as soon as I say what I want people act as if it is so shocking. I guess I just don't get it Lee.
I guess I just can't seem to convey my point here.
I do apologize for the way I said things, but I have just as much right to speak my mind as does anyone else.
I just wonder why they put that little place for comments on the blogs? Is it just to agree with everything in the blog?
Why is it one person can voice their oppinion, but another is being wrong for voicing their's.
I really do not care if you do not agree with what I said or how I said it. It was meant to stay on the blog comments. I did not bring it to the posts.
I did however, bring up the fact that I have recieved some complaints and my feeling is, if you have complaints, then please add some sort of suggestion for resolution. It is everyones board, not just mine to fix.
I will do anything I can to help the board grow, but speaking for myself, I cannot fix all the complaints or have all the answers.
The blog was part of the complaints.
I have never suggested that people should feel bad about people not posting to other's posts.
Geeze, if I let that bother me I would be a total nut by now.
Kim had written that it bothered her when people had a problem if people did not feel they had enough posts. Then she mentioned that nobody posted to her post with the wink jokes, now I am not sure if she meant that or if she was being sarcastic.
I do know that the board does go through growing pains now and then.
You know, I have never jumped on anyone or complained when someone did not post to my threads, I have never gotten upset here and I have had convesations where people disagree with me and I respect that.
Cat you and I have had discussions where we dissagree so have Kim and I. I do not know what came over me today. I just felt very frustrated by people who complain and then walk away rather than bring a suggestion to help with the complaint. I guess that is just a pet peeve of mine. But, also it has been piling up on me here and I just needed to vent my oppinions and I did so in a very distasteful way. I guess I felt it was okay to do it on Kim's blog instead of the board. I see now I would have been wrong either way.
I sometimes have a hard time sitting back and spoon feeding everyone just what they want to hear.
I will keep a tight lip from now on. I have learned twice now the hardway. I won't stop saying what I think or feel, I will just choose my words more carefully.
Thank you for posting.
Take care,
I hope things are going well for you and your son's.


Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Registered: 01-28-2005
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 11:52am

I type this in a kind manner...

What Kim types in her blog is her business and her right. If you don't like it, don't go read it. Like I mentioned earlier, I don't agree with everything Kim expresses. As her friend, I find it disturbing that she has been singled out. It is not normal or natural for someone to agree with everything someone expresses. Kim's blog is public. She is doing nothing wrong. She has done nothing behind anyone's back.

Thanks for allowing me to express myself. Hugs to everyone.

bug

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Registered: 01-31-2005
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:04pm

Just our opinion, but this thread is going off on a tangent about blogs. Laurie asked at the end of her post what we as a board like and don't like and how we can make it a place where we all feel comfortable. She has apologized to Kim. We have noticed that in many other threads, the original topic of a post gets lost due to posters singling out an issue not related to the topic at hand. In many cases, the tangents are things that could be taken off the board and discussed via email or other means of communication.


We don't mean to say that people should not express opinions. That is what this discussion is all about. However, could we not turn this into a productive thread about

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:10pm
Pam,
Thanks for your kind words. I do realize that I cannot fix everything.
I just have a problem with people who complain about things without giving a resolution with the complaint. I also have tollerated the fact that my name and cl and relationship problem was mentioned in that blog. I have not taken things personally untill just now in defense of the bored.
I guess it is not my place. And I will be more careful in the future.
Take care,
Thanks again,
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:12pm
Brownie,
Thank you for your post.
It makes my heart happy.
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:18pm
Wow!.. I was surprized to see this post..

((((Laurie Hon))) is it the line above from my post that has bothered you?.. It was only meant to say ..Wow! I was surprized any of this was going on!.. I didn't know....The Wow was

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:19pm
Thank you ting and caly,
I would appreciate if we could do that. Apparently I did ask them to tell me what they think if it concerns me so I guess it is part of the thread as well. But I do hope we can get to the suggestions too.
Thank you two for getting things back on track.
Hugs, Laurie Check out my new blog. co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board Email- didoangst@comcast.net http://didoangst.blogspot.com/ http://www.4-lesbianlife.com/
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 12:24pm

I have been posting here for the past seven months and at times I have felt that having the support and caring and sometimes harsh honesty from the women here has saved me from the brink of insanity.

Scarlett
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Registered: 09-10-2004
Mon, 03-21-2005 - 1:17pm

You took the words straight out of my mouth. No lie, I've been thinking all day how to put my feelings into words.


As too WHY this thread was started ... how

Robin

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