It Breaks my heart...
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It Breaks my heart...
| Mon, 03-21-2005 - 3:51am |
I have read posts that the board has changed and become more serious or depressing.
I have been referred to Kim's blog for complaints she keeps posting about the board.
It breaks my heart to think the board is going down hill.
I am challenging everyone here to post under this thread what they think needs to change.
It is easy to complain, anyone can complain, but in the military we have a rule do not complain unless you have at least 3 resolutions to back you up.
That is the tough part, making changes that appeale to the majority.
We had many changes when caly took over and people complained, then Beth and I took the board back to the old format and still, people are complaining.
Well, then it is time to fix things up around here.
This board belongs to everyone. I personally find it very weak for a person to complain and then not have a suggestion to fix something.
Lets stop whining, and put our heads together and come up with ideas or suggestions to make the majority interested in the board.
The only thing I would not like to take away from this board is for people to be able to feel comfortable to post whatever is on their mind without fearing that they will be judged.
What seems like a petty thing to one person might seem like a major thing to another.
You will never know what a person is truly going through unless you are living their life completely.
So, if you have a complaint, then speak up now and bring a positive suggestion to help the thing you are complaining about. Tell me why people are getting hurt feelings and staying away from the board.
Tell me why changes are not working for you. Tell me why the old format is not working now.
Tell me what you want. this is everyone's board. But, if you do not speak up then nothing will get accomplished. If it is me, tell me so, I would rather you be upfront with me than hold back.
Just please tell me what the deal is here.
we cannot accomplish a goal if we sit and do nothing to work toward it.
Our goal and mission is to keep this board interesting.
I will do whatever it takes to help this board. Will you?
I have been referred to Kim's blog for complaints she keeps posting about the board.
It breaks my heart to think the board is going down hill.
I am challenging everyone here to post under this thread what they think needs to change.
It is easy to complain, anyone can complain, but in the military we have a rule do not complain unless you have at least 3 resolutions to back you up.
That is the tough part, making changes that appeale to the majority.
We had many changes when caly took over and people complained, then Beth and I took the board back to the old format and still, people are complaining.
Well, then it is time to fix things up around here.
This board belongs to everyone. I personally find it very weak for a person to complain and then not have a suggestion to fix something.
Lets stop whining, and put our heads together and come up with ideas or suggestions to make the majority interested in the board.
The only thing I would not like to take away from this board is for people to be able to feel comfortable to post whatever is on their mind without fearing that they will be judged.
What seems like a petty thing to one person might seem like a major thing to another.
You will never know what a person is truly going through unless you are living their life completely.
So, if you have a complaint, then speak up now and bring a positive suggestion to help the thing you are complaining about. Tell me why people are getting hurt feelings and staying away from the board.
Tell me why changes are not working for you. Tell me why the old format is not working now.
Tell me what you want. this is everyone's board. But, if you do not speak up then nothing will get accomplished. If it is me, tell me so, I would rather you be upfront with me than hold back.
Just please tell me what the deal is here.
we cannot accomplish a goal if we sit and do nothing to work toward it.
Our goal and mission is to keep this board interesting.
I will do whatever it takes to help this board. Will you?
Hugs,
Laurie
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Laurie
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You know Laurie, I really like you. I like you as a CL as well. I must admit, I didn't think it was a wise move to mention Kim's blog. But, we all do things out of emotion. I did a couple of Friday's ago.
However, what bothered me more than you mentioning Kim's blog was the way at least one other board member chimed in on her blog too. I didn't like it. This post has turned into beat up on Kim. And, that's not cool.
You know, Kim may tell it like it is...I know that rubs people the wrong way sometimes. But, she's a very caring person. When her and Courtney found out that I would be alone on my birthday, they came 4 hours down to my city, took me out to a movie, and bought me dinner. I'm talking dinner somewhere nice too.
How many people on this board do you think would have taken the time to do that for me? I would guess zero. Well, that's the kind of person Kim is. Thoughtful. Yeah, she's political. She's going to tell you how she really feels. But, you know what, telling it like it is at least lets you know where she stands.
I read Kim's blog often. I very seldom know exactly who she's referring to when she discusses the board, which BTW isn't often. So, things aren't as obvious to an outsider as you think they are Laurie.
I'm going to give you a BIG Hug (((((((Laurie))))))))))). I would like to suggest this post be removed. And, in its place one that will spur the topic of ideas much better.
In my humble opinion,
bug
Thanks for posting. I was talking about people who have left or thinking about leaving due to hurt feelings or problems with the way they feel the board is changing, or are tired of reading depressing posts.
I am just trying to let people know that they can help change the direction of the board by posting topics they want to talk about and that not everyone will relate to every post. It should not be taken personnely if people are not jumping all over your post.
There are other things too. I made the mistake of singling Kim out in all this.
I am not giving names.
You have plenty of rights to come here when you can and post to whatever post you want to.
Somebody wanted to start a new folder for the writers on the board. That was so cool and uplifting. And Beth got it going.
Also I hope everyone can feel free to post here and not have people suggest that it is depressing but rather just skip over to another post. There are plenty people here to have enough interest in different posts.
There are also people who just do not have time to post to everyone but read the posts and just post to those they really have something to say to them.
I plan to look at your tatoo post but I will get to it after some of the other's. I have no tats as of yet, but it is a curiosity to me. I would have one but chicken out whenever I go which is usually as moral support for other's.
Thaks for posting,
Take it easy,
Laurie
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I guess I feel a lot like you do, Brownie. I have been in the dark about much of the doings on the board. Half the time I don't catch on to what people are even talking about...and therefore I do not respond. But to be honest, being clueless about the strife doesn't bother me a whole lot. Heck, I have enough on my own plate to keep me busy. ;o) As for the board, I am happy with it. I like the daily fun posts, the quizzes, question/answer posts, etc. I like hearing about what is up in other's lives. And although some of the posts are about sad things, I like to hear those updates too. Life is full of happy and sad stuff...that's just the way it is. I don't have any suggestions on how to change the board because I think it's fine. I enjoyed it under Pam, and under Caly, and I enjoy it now. If there are changes other people want, that's okay with me too. I'm a go-with-the-flow kinda girl. :o)
Jules
Jules
Only one who partially did not.
The powers that be are the only one who can remove a post. I think it should stay but if you really want it pulled let me know for sure and I will take it to the higher powers.
I do remember Kim and court going to visit you yes.
I still respectfully feel I have a right to speak my mind as well. Especially when my name is singled out by that person. I should have chosen my wrods more carefully. But, never tell me it is okay for one person to say what they want and that I should hold back, cause look out, I will let it fly, lol.
I do apologize for how and what I said and yes I should not have singled Kim out on the board.
But you know what, I was saying what I wanted to say, just maybe not saying it well. And the thing on the blog about halo and I is blown way out of proportion with very little truth to it, and very direspectfull. I will stand by my right to respond on a public forum in defense of my name.
Many people read that blog and there is my name and who I am packed full of lies about halo and I. This has probably caused alot of people to judge us wrongly.
That did make me angry and I will stand up for myself just as Kim has for herself. I have not done anything different than she did. If someone has something to say to me then say it if you want to post about me publicly using my name then I just wish you would get the facts straight.
It makes no difference to me if she took a boat load of refugees to dinner, I do not and will not allow my name to be used in public jam packed with lies. I will stand up for myself no matter what people think of me. It sure can't be any worse than what was said about me and not to me.
Well, I reacted to that and singled her out on this board. And I am told I do not have a right but she does. That if I don't like it then don't read it.
Rj, it is just hard for me to swallow that, the fact that people see one person as having a right to do and say what ever they want and then to slam another for saying or doing what they want.
Why is it that way? I really do not get it.
This is puzzling me as I read all the posts about Kim having the right to say or do what she wants and that I was so wrong for doing the same.
Anyway that is what has been getting me sort of steamed today. I am not asking people to take sides. Kim and I had our say and then I apologized. What got me typing madly was the blog about halo and I on top of all the other's and the fact that I have read complaints but know resolutions.
I do respect you for standing up for a friend, but it does not make what she blogged about me right.
And Yes, I apologize, but that does not mean that I have backed down on what I believe and that is my right.
I like you too rj, and it is okay for people to dissagree, I respect you even more because you come straight to me when you have something to say about things concerning me. I respect a person who is straight up and I trust a person who is straight up like you have been.
I prefer to know where I stand. I trust a person who can come straight to the source.
Yes I singled Kim out on the board, she singled me out on the blog, and we both had it out back on the board. But I prefer that rather than a person who is fake and smiles to your face then throws daggers at your back.
Yes Kim say's things in a way that rubs people wrong so she can take it when people do the same back to her. She is a strong person and she can handle anything I have to say. So we let each other have it today, that does not mean that I do not like Kim. I might not like what she has to say all the time, but she is not my enemy. She slammed me on the board/blog so I commented and slammed her on the board/blog.
And now she has accepted my apologies.
I am not perfect and sometimes as today, I do get out of line.
So hopefully everyone will accept my apologies for allowing my anger and frustration to come out today. Makes me wonder what time of the month it might be.
I should go check the calander.
Take care and thank you for understanding and I am sorry I let your friend have it today. That is not what I am about, but sometimes I just let go.
Laurie
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First off, I'm not a boat load of refugees. That time at the movie with Kim and Court was important to me. The last time I saw a movie was with a guy I thought was my friend. Only to come and find out he wanted to date me. When I wouldn't date him, he stopped talking to me. I've not been to a movie with a friend since then... until Kim and Court came to see me.
bug :(
I am happy that you posted, and do not mean this in a bad why but you and brownie are so sweet.
I am just trying to get the people who have been having some issues with the board to talk about it and to help us with suggestions to make them feel better about the board.
The other stuff sort of happened in the mix out from something else and got out of hand.
Thanks for posting.
Laurie
co-cl of Lesbian Life Message Board
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I see one side of her and you see the other side that is all.
I was not meaning you are a boat load of refugees, just exagerating a nice or special thing.
Any way I think I just can't seem to say anything right so I am just not going to say anymore tonight.
Sorry if I have offended you now. It just seems I should keeps me mouth shut around here.
Laurie
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I've watched this thread evolve throughout the day, hoping it would return to its original topic -- discussing ways to improve this board, if you feel it needs improving.
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