Sorry for trying...

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Sorry for trying...
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:22pm
Going to think this through
Laurie


Edited 3/21/2005 8:54 pm ET ET by cl-lauriedav
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:46pm
I am so truely sorry because I really care about you and I do not want any one out here to hurt or hurt each other..
I sent you an e-mail hope-fully you can read it and see just what I was expressing in my posts..because I don't think you did.. I never agreed with anyone that was saying one person can express and another can't.. My concern was that you not have all the complaints piled on you..I hope you will see that..
((((Hugs to you and Sheila))))

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 7:55pm
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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 8:36pm

Laurie,

Please don't pull out........You told me that you respected me, and you didn't want me to leave here. When I was resolved to change my screen name here, you spoke words of wisdom to me about being so much better than all the rudeness that we have received, and I stayed here for you. You wanted to be proud of me and for me not to go hide. I want to be proud of you, and I am very proud of you....even through all this....I see where you have done nothing but defend the right for this board to exist here for everyone.

Since I have been at this sight, I have not felt accepted as a member of this community. There are those here who are very sincere in heart and mind, and I have made some great friends here as well. Those who choose to ignore me, so be it...I have ignored them back.

But you lady, are a hero to me.....and maybe others choose to be blind to what you were saying...especially since the cheap seats are sweet when you are not being personally attacked in said writings. On a personal level I find opinions in blogs to be self gratifying only to the person who writes them to make them feel better about who and what they are, or what they think they are, above everything and anyone who doesn't fit into the scheme of their existence and while admitting in the same breath to know they are rude and not so nice in kind and manner!

I came home on several occasions to watch the progress of this thread, hoping upon hope that everyone would find a platform to stand on and share their complaints openly. Instead, they attacked you and defended what seeks to destroy from the sidelines.

Your brave and sweet manner, of not mentioning the things that can hurt and destroy others shows that you have great courage and strength to choose your words carefully. For some of you, you don't know some of the things Laurie has confided in me about what others have said or commented about others on the board, and you who she defended unknowingly attacked her. As a CL Laurie, you kept those views in confidence and are to be praised for that effort.

I also want to praise you and Sadie, for quietly and most effectively squelching the mishap between two boardies within the past week, when they attacked each other publicly. No one stepped forward to praise that on the board or any blogs at all. I felt pleased that it was handled much better than our mistake on board! No offense Cat and not meant to be towards you, but I still have cat claws stripped down my back, and I graciously kept my mouth shut and attacked no one for their opinions on Lauries and my open mistake, nor have I said anything about the silent treatment I have received from many of the old boardies that claim to cherish the support given here to everyone.....well, not exactly everyone IMHO.

Laurie loves this board and was so happy to become the co-cl with Sadie. She's been your friend. She admitted the way she went about this thing was wrong. Isn't that enough? Please Laurie don't step down. Don't think that this won't happen again? Every CL that comes here will be criticized no matter what they do...Pam was right let the board evolve in the direction the members want it to. You and Sadie can't please everyone here! Let that corner of the world and anyone else who wants a blog go blog away....I think it should be Blah Blah away, just my personal opinion know what I mean?

hugs
halo




Edited 3/21/2005 9:38 pm ET ET by halo_hvn

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halo

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:03pm
(((Halo)))) I am going to step up and say I did not... repeat did not.... defend Kim's spot.. I do not think any of us attacked Laurie.. I know I did not..
I keep telling her to re-read because I only was saying it's Kim's spot and it's hers to say what she wants... Doesn't mean I agree with it.. Doesn't mean I don't.... only that it's her's.. I also said that I am defending Laurie in that I think if people were having problems with any thing in that spot or on this board that it was not Laurie's problem.. Repeat not Laurie's problem ...to fix it, but rather they should take it up with whomever it was they had the problem with wether that be Kim or someone else on the board...

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:24pm

Naw Cat

Nothing you said offended me just now. Laurie is hurting and I wanted to speak my opinion, that's all! No sweat, I just want her to stay as CL. I did however, want to let everyone know how I personally felt since I have been here. No I don't feel welcomed here, I haven't ever since the incident. Laurie talked me into staying here, and I have made some friends and that was why I wanted to come here in the first place. I figure in time people will stop being so judgemental...in the mean time, I'm not leaving here.

I have listened with an open ear to all who post here, and I will never assume that any one person is being selfish, or unreasonable, or whiny, or mellow dramatic, or rude, or overly friendly towards their partners or their friends, or complain too much or are happy too much. It doesn't matter. What does matter, is that they can post without being criticized here or anywhere. The ticket meter is not running here with me on who posts more than another, or how many times someone complains, or what they complain about, or how kissy kissy or huggy huggy they may be...in general no one here has disgusted me. For all that participate and post here I just want them to be happy that's all, and if they feel burdened to continue to share with those who are willing to listen. And please don't think that what I posted was directed directly at you. I know how to reach you in e-mail, lol and that hasn't happened now has it? lol

hugs
halo

hugs

halo

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:31pm
LOL ..Thanks Halo.. I totally understand what your saying..I have had a

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Mon, 03-21-2005 - 9:34pm

I'm tired too...I just messed up by saying a "b" word..lol sorry all....

TOS

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halo